Darren Haber, PsyD, MFT

12/26/2025

Often therapy begins when words fail us. They need to; we’re too used to them.

Often when language fails us, therapy begins

06/16/2025

A brief prose poem I wrote on the long shadow of grief. Gift link, please let me know what you think!

Published in Psychoanalysis, Self and Context (Vol. 20, No. 2, 2025)

04/27/2025

https://open.substack.com/pub/darrenhaber/p/foreclosing-arguments?r=bia3&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

My latest on projective identification, anxiety, addiction, and language in psychodynamic therapy.

Part two on language and projective identification in psychotherapy

07/20/2024

When it comes to fathering, I was raised with plentiful examples what not to do, which for a while I thought would be enough.

On Fatherless Fathering and its Challenges

04/05/2024

“Addiction often serves to try and renew lost, ruptured, or abandoned transitional space. Psychologically, the person is frozen in time, their development stalled, their psyche half-born.”

I think Beckett vividly captures the feel of such frozenness in his writing.

Darren Haber, PsyD

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9h Addiction often serves to try and renew lost, ruptured, or abandoned transitional space. Psychologically, the person is frozen in time, their development stalled, their psyche half-born.”

I think Beckett vividly captures the feel of such frozenness in his writing.

Darren Haber, PsyD

The compulsion to revive child-like play and possibility misses a crucial factor

03/16/2024

My latest column on the collapse between our private and public selves, when a mask becomes the only reality, and why.

When pretending is the only reality

03/08/2024

My latest on the day to day magic hiding in plain sight.

In praise of ordinary magic

02/07/2024

My best column so far, IMHO, re. the algorithmic absurdity of data-fying personal or subjective suffering. https://darrenhaber.substack.com/p/algorithmic-agonistes?fbclid=IwAR0JPdLXlJUGvUWj7SP-3n6Oe4R7cz_N62crUgYNLCvHBQZqUDGV8yIOLdE

12/19/2023

Part 1 of my interview with the fabulous Sara London. I discuss my professional and personal voyage re psychoanalysis, my work with addiction, hope for more access for marginalized groups, and the overall wonder of relationality.

Part 1 of an interview with the fab Sara London

11/03/2023

How to break thru a patient’s thick layers of self hatred?

Finding one's reflection

10/18/2023

My latest Substack column on my social media addiction. I can stop doomscrolling any time I want.

The bewitching lure of social media (part 1)

09/24/2023

Here is my latest, a two part essay on nameless but powerful grief, sadness in search of a story--often the haunting of traumatic loss or pain that has never been seen, recognized, or empathically named.

https://open.substack.com/pub/darrenhaber/p/nameless-grief?r=bia3&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web