Evie Shafner, LMFT

11/14/2025

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Real love isn’t about being perfect, it’s about growing, listening, and returning with care. The right partner sees you clearly, gives you space to grow, and keeps choosing connection over control.
What’s one thing you’ve learned about love that you wish you knew sooner? we’d love to read it! ❤️‍🔥

11/12/2025

Is your phone getting more attention than your partner?

We all use devices to escape sometimes, but when screen time becomes avoid time, your relationship can quietly suffer. The good news is you can turn it around with awareness and connection.

Keep in mind ⤵️

💗 If you’re sharing online more than with your partner, it’s time to reconnect.

💗 Social media isn’t the issue, disconnection is.

💗 Loving conversations help bring your attention back to each other.

A little intention goes a long way in love. Even a few minutes of presence each day can shift everything.

If your relationship needs a tune-up, please visit my website at www.evieshafner.com for more information on therapy or to schedule a consultation. Now seeing clients virtually!

LA Imago Relationship Therapist Evie Shafner, LMFT, with offices in LA’s Hancock Park and Westlake Village offers Imago Relationship Therapy, Imago therapy workshops as co-facilitator at LAImago, individual therapy and marriage counseling.

11/10/2025

Why do we ignore the nice ones and chase the drama?

Sometimes we pick hard love because deep down, we don’t feel worthy of the easy kind. Healing starts when we understand why we keep choosing pain over peace.

Here’s what to remember ⤵️

1️⃣ Sometimes we don’t believe we deserve real love.

2️⃣ We try to fix old wounds by choosing people who can’t give us what we need.

3️⃣ Healthy love only happens when we start loving ourselves first.

It’s not about changing them, it’s about healing you so you can receive the love you truly deserve.

If your relationship needs a tune-up, please visit my website at www.evieshafner.com for more information on therapy or to schedule a consultation. Now seeing clients virtually!

LA Imago Relationship Therapist Evie Shafner, LMFT, with offices in LA’s Hancock Park and Westlake Village offers Imago Relationship Therapy, Imago therapy workshops as co-facilitator at LAImago, individual therapy and marriage counseling.

11/07/2025

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This is where the real work begins, getting curious about why we accepted less and gently untangling those old beliefs.

Therapy gives us the tools to rewrite that story and create space for love that actually feels good.
So many of us stay in relationship dynamics that do not serve us, not because we don’t long for more, but because somewhere along the way, we were convinced we don’t deserve more.

This is an invitation to question that reality and to remember the truth about who you are and how you’re here to be met.

11/05/2025

Think you and your partner should naturally “just get each other”? Think again.

Loving someone the way they feel loved, not just how you do, is the real growth. Here’s what you need to keep in mind ⤵️

❤️ Learn their love language, even if it’s different from yours.

❤️ Remember: you married a “not-you.”

❤️ Stay in your Adult Brain, even when things get hard.

The truth is, relationships don’t fall apart from big things, it’s the small misunderstandings that build walls. Learning a few tools (and getting a little guidance) can totally help.

If your relationship needs a tune-up, please visit my website at www.evieshafner.com for more information on therapy or to schedule a consultation. Now seeing clients virtually!

LA Imago Relationship Therapist Evie Shafner, LMFT, with offices in LA’s Hancock Park and Westlake Village offers Imago Relationship Therapy, Imago therapy workshops as co-facilitator at LAImago, individual therapy and marriage counseling.

11/03/2025

Want to know what makes a great partner? It’s not magic, it’s showing up.

Many of the best things a partner can do in a relationship are actually just the best things anyone can do.

For example, these are some loving actions ⤵️

💗 You give your time and attention, because being present is the biggest gift.

💗 You take a stand for your relationship, through the good and the tough stuff.

💗 You show love with your words, actions, and loyalty, so your partner feels truly seen.

Great relationships are built on showing up, not showing off. It’s not about being perfect, it’s about being present, kind, and committed.

If your relationship needs a tune-up, please visit my website at www.evieshafner.com for more information on therapy or to schedule a consultation. Now seeing clients virtually!

LA Imago Relationship Therapist Evie Shafner, LMFT, with offices in LA’s Hancock Park and Westlake Village offers Imago Relationship Therapy, Imago therapy workshops as co-facilitator at LAImago, individual therapy and marriage counseling.

10/31/2025

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These questions matter because they invite deeper honesty and connection, the kind that keeps relationships from running on autopilot.

When we dare to ask (and answer) the uncomfortable stuff, we create intimacy that feels real, not just routine.
Ask your partner these 5 questions..

10/29/2025

If you’re living and working with your partner 24/7, you’re not alone, and it’s normal to feel irritated sometimes.

But constant sighs, tones, or eye-rolls? That stuff adds up, and slowly poisons the relationship.

Here’s how to shift out of reaction mode and into connection. ⤵️

1️⃣ Pause and check: Are you in “toddler brain”?
That’s when you act without thinking, blaming, snapping, or shutting down.

2️⃣ Respond with your “adult brain.”
This part of you chooses kindness, even when your partner is having a tough moment.

3️⃣ Practice self-compassion when you fall short.
We all do. What matters is noticing and trying again with love.

This isn’t about being perfect. It’s about protecting the space between you and your partner, especially when times are hard.

If your relationship needs a tune-up, please visit my website at www.evieshafner.com for more information on therapy or to schedule a consultation. Now seeing clients virtually!

LA Imago Relationship Therapist Evie Shafner, LMFT, with offices in LA’s Hancock Park and Westlake Village offers Imago Relationship Therapy, Imago therapy workshops as co-facilitator at LAImago, individual therapy and marriage counseling.

10/27/2025

Feel like it’s hard to accept love, even when someone’s trying to give it to you? You’re not alone.

When love didn’t feel safe or consistent growing up, it can be confusing or even painful to receive it as an adult.

Here’s how to start shifting that old pattern. ⤵️

❤️ Notice who you’re drawn to.
Are you chasing someone emotionally unavailable? That might feel “normal,” but it’s not healthy.

❤️ Be curious about your early beliefs.
Did you grow up thinking love had to be earned or that you weren’t enough? Those old stories need updating.

❤️ Practice being the safe one for yourself.
Self-acceptance is a daily practice, not a personality trait. Start small. Keep going.

Love isn’t something you have to chase. It’s something you learn to receive.

If your relationship needs a tune-up, please visit my website at www.evieshafner.com for more information on therapy or to schedule a consultation. Now seeing clients virtually!

LA Imago Relationship Therapist Evie Shafner, LMFT, with offices in LA’s Hancock Park and Westlake Village offers Imago Relationship Therapy, Imago therapy workshops as co-facilitator at LAImago, individual therapy and marriage counseling.

10/24/2025

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Love might bring two people together, but it’s not what keeps them connected. Without emotional maturity, empathy, and self-regulation, love alone can’t carry the weight of a long-term relationship.
Leave a “YES” below if you agree👇 Love isn’t enough by itself 💔 Clipped from my time on

10/22/2025

Still waiting to hear “I love you”? You’re not alone.

Saying those three words is a big deal, but so is who says them, and why.
There’s so much beauty in the moments before.

Here’s how to stay grounded while you wait. ⤵️

1️⃣ First, notice the actions, not just the words.
Are they kind? Attentive? Do they show up when it matters?

2️⃣ Tune into your own anxiety, and become your own soother.
Your worth isn’t measured by how quickly someone says “I love you.”

3️⃣ Enjoy the slow unfolding.
Every love story has its own rhythm, and every stage holds its own magic.

Let time be your ally. Some things are worth the wait.

If your relationship needs a tune-up, please visit my website at www.evieshafner.com for more information on therapy or to schedule a consultation. Now seeing clients virtually!

LA Imago Relationship Therapist Evie Shafner, LMFT, with offices in LA’s Hancock Park and Westlake Village offers Imago Relationship Therapy, Imago therapy workshops as co-facilitator at LAImago, individual therapy and marriage counseling.

10/21/2025

Feel like you hate your life lately? You’re not alone.

What’s happening outside might not be the real problem, it’s how we talk to ourselves inside that really shapes our experience.

Here’s how to begin shifting that painful inner voice. ⤵️

❤️ Start by noticing your self-talk.
Is it harsh, critical, or full of shame? Awareness is the first step.

❤️ Practice speaking to yourself with kindness.
Even if it feels fake at first. Change starts with repetition, not perfection.

❤️ Commit to small moments of self-acceptance each day.
It won’t feel natural right away, but it will get easier with time.

Your relationship with yourself is the foundation for everything else.

If your relationship needs a tune-up, please visit my website at www.evieshafner.com for more information on therapy or to schedule a consultation. Now seeing clients virtually!

LA Imago Relationship Therapist Evie Shafner, LMFT, with offices in LA’s Hancock Park and Westlake Village offers Imago Relationship Therapy, Imago therapy workshops as co-facilitator at LAImago, individual therapy and marriage counseling.