Dr Mimi Hoang

Psychologist, Life Coach, Speaker As a policy, I do not correspond with current or former therapy clients via social media.

Dr. Mimi Hoang is an internationally-recognized psychologist, educator, author, and grassroots activist specializing in the le***an, gay, bisexual, transgender, q***r, intersex, and asexual (LGBTQ+) and Asian Pacific Islander (API) communities. Since the 1990s, she has co-founded three organizations in Los Angeles for bisexual, pansexual, fluid, and other nonmonosexual (AKA "bi+") individuals, authored multiple publications, and earned a seat at the landmark 2013 White House Bisexual Community Roundtable. Dr. Mimi's steadfast leadership has earned her multiple awards, a feature in Jan Dee Gordon's LGBTQ of Steel photography book, and being named “One of the Most Significant Women in the Bisexual Movement.” She currently is the owner of Living in Color Therapy and works part-time as the Program Coordinator of the LGBTQIA+ Affirmative Therapy Center at Airport Marina Counseling Services, and is the creator of the "Bi on Life" self-empowerment series.

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12/22/2025

Tips on shining your bi+ light during family holiday gatherings:

1) Firstly, be out to them, but come out before or after and not during, a major family event. Make sure to come out during a calm and private moment, not at a big family function, which can make an already stressful time even more stressful.

2) If you have a partner(s), bring them to a gathering, regardless of their gender. Other people bring their significant others, so why shouldn't you? This helps your family get to know your partners and normalizes the fact that you date more than one gender.

3) If you're single, talk about your past partner(s) or celebrity crushes. This can also be done with #2. Fight monosexism and normalize bisexuality by talking about past and current partners or celebrities you're crushing on of multiple genders.

4) Dress in whatever way makes you feel fabulous. Feeling femme or masc or all of the above? Be creative and express your inner bi-ness with clothing, hair, make-up, and accessories.

5) Talk about bi/q***r topics. This could mean mentioning the bi/q***r community groups or events you attend, or bi/q***r pop culture, art, and music.

6) Watch bi+ movies together. Watch bi/q***r holiday movies or other bi+ classics. If you don't know of any, then do your research!

7) Call out instances of homophobia, biphobia, and transphobia if they occur. Some of it may come from ignorance rather than malice. Be prepared to gently correct people or express some annoyance rather than holding it in.

8) Find bi+ allies in your family and ask for their support. As things may get challenging, identify people in your family that are bi+ affirming and are wiling to step up and protect you.

9) Establish limits and boundaries for toxic behavior and follow-through on your boundaries. Be aware of when things become too challenging, and then protect yourself by taking a break or leaving early.

10) Develop a self-care or aftercare plan as needed. All of this can take up a lot of emotional labor so use healthy coping strategies such as box breathing, journaling, or calling a friend, therapist, or a crisis hotline.

12/16/2025

How to avoid burnout as a :

1) Stay in your lane bc doing what you're good at makes things easier.

2) Practice self-care with exercise and breaks.

3) Celebrate small and big wins because it's a marathon, not a sprint.

4) Learn how to ask for help and talk to mentors.

Learn more on becoming a BiBeacon

12/12/2025

Being seen as bi+ while being with a cishet partner may mean that you need to flight comphet and connect with q***r energy in other areas of your life. Like my previous post said, bisexual, pansexual, or fluid people in relationships with cishet partners deserve to feel seen as q***r. This can sometimes be a challenge because the relationship is a mixed-gender or straight-presenting relationship, and so society will assume heterosexuality right off the bat.

This can feel like a challenge too if your cishet partner is having difficulty accepting your q***r energy or if they're just unfamiliar with LGBTQ+ issues, and that can create frustrations or an uphill battle for you. But it first needs to come from within you, because people can only affirm your q***rness as much as you affirm your own q***rness.

I repeat, people can only affirm your q***rness as much as you affirm your own q***rness.

So your q***rness needs to "radiate" from within if you are to be "seen" on the outside. And if you aren't connecting with your own q***r energy or q***r culture, then you may not be radiating that light or energy anyway.

Compulsory heterosexuality may be a contributing factor, which are explicit and implicit pressures to "act straight" and devalue gayness or q***rness. You will need to do the internal work to catch yourself doing comphet.

Also, radiating q***rness can happen in monogamous and consensually non-monogamous relationships alike! Consuming bi+ specific or LGBTQ+ art and literature could help. You could also make LGBTQ+ friends or join LGBTQ+ community groups to speed up that process.

Find your own q***r joy so you can radiate that energy while being with a cishet partner, or any partner, for that matter!

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12/08/2025

Bi+ people in relationships with cishet partners deserve to feel seen as q***r and deserve to q***r the relationship. A bisexual, pansexual, or fluid person is bi+ regardless of the gender of their partner because sexual identity is based on what's in your heart (attraction), not who's in your bed (behavior).

Being bi+, for many people, means being a part of the LGBTQ+ community because they are non-monosexual and q***r. Thus, that inherently "q***rs" any relationship that the bi+ individual is in, even if the partner is a cishet person and the relationship is percieved as straight or is straight-presenting.

The bi+ partner also deserves to be their authentic selves within the relationship by expressing their q***rness to their fullest extent. They deserve to q***r the relationship by challenging and dismantling the compulsory heterosexuality within the relationship which could include (internalized) sexism, heteronormativity, and cisnormativity.

And in tandem, the cishet partner would need to check their privilege and become an ally to the bi+ person. This entails learning about the history of oppression impacting LGBTQ+ people, calling out the homophobia, biphobia, and transphobia that they see, and protecting and uplifting q***r and trans people to create a freer world for all.

12/02/2025

Today is Giving Tuesday! Please help us fund bi+ education and wellness by donating to the Los Angeles Bi+ Task Force a non-profit I co-founded in 2008 that is only one of a few bi+ focused non-profits providing programs to uplift the bisexual, pansexual, and fluid community, the largest subgroup of the q***r community (almost 60%) and faces staggering health disparities. Our goal is to raise $1000 by the end of TODAY, so any little bit helps! Please donate via Venmo or PayPal using the QR codes or go to: https://labitaskforce.org/donate%2Fcontact

12/02/2025

You can be bi+ and be romantically and/or sexually attracted to more than one gender.

You can be bi+ and prefer certain genders over others.

You can be bi+ and prefer certain gender expressions over others.

You can be bi+ and appreciate gender differences while not having any preferences.

You can be bi+ and be gender-blind in your attractions.

You can be bi+ and be attracted to trans and non-binary people.

You can be bi+ and be biromantic and asexual.

You can be bi+ and be bisexual and aromantic.

You can be bi+ and have sexual/romantic experience with only one gender.

You can be bi+ and have no sexual/romantic experiences at all.

That's because bisexuality is a very multifaceted non-binary sexual identity category that includes many ways of being, so don't let anyone box you in or leave you out.

11/26/2025

I finished my Bi on Leadership series this weekend, with attendees from across the US and Germany! I had a wonderful time facilitating workshops on the history of the bi+ movement, leadership styles, social justice, grassroots and global activism, and the power of mentorship, and got great feedback like:

"This was great. It's just great to be in community and talking about these issues and concepts."

"I really enjoyed it... I APPRECIATE YOU."

"Thank you, so much. That was wonderful. Just being in a space like that lightens my heart."

As a bisexual Asian American psychologist who has been doing community advocacy for 25+ years, this kind of stuff brings me q***r joy and keeps me going during these dark and challenging times. It inspires me to see newer leaders wanting to boost their knowledge and skills to become better professional bisexuals. 😉

As someone once said, "no one can do everything, but everyone can do something."

So that's a wrap on my 2025 Bi on Life, Bi on Love, and Bi on Leadership trilogy of series! ✨️✨️✨️

What am I cooking up for 2026, you ask? Keep an eye out here and you'll find out! 😎😎😎

11/22/2025

The The Advocate writer Trudy Ring wrote a nice short piece on the life of Loraine Hutchins with quotes from me and Robyn Ochs. I'm glad that one major LGBTQ publication is writing about the death of one of the founders of the bisexual movement but where are the others?

Read here: www.advocate.com/news/remembering-bisexual-activist-loraine-hutchins

Please keep sharing and reposting so that we can shine the light on this. We will never forget Loraine. 💕🙏💕

11/20/2025

I'm heartbroken that Loraine Hutchins, Ph.D. (she/her), bisexual pioneer, and someone I've called one of the Grandmothers of the Bi+ Movement, died yesterday. She was a titan, an "OOG" who was a fierce social justice warrior to the end. She is most known for co-editing "Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out" with Lani Ka'ahumanu, the anthology that catalyzed the bi movement and she never stopped her activism despite health challenges.

I remember reading it when I came out in the late 1990s, which helped me feel seen and strengthened me because I understood that I was not alone and that I was a part of a larger community. Loraine was also a long-time professor of Women's Studies and LGBT Studies in the Washington, D.C., area and was honored as a "Community Pioneer" by the Rainbow History Project in 2009.

I met Loraine at the first White House Bisexual Community Roundtable in 2013 and was starstruck and we became FB friends and I learned from her via her frequent posts which were often provocative and witty. We featured her on the Los Angeles Bi+ Task Force Bi-alogue panel "Listen to Your Bi+ Elders" in 2022 alongside other and she was funny and brilliant and seemed very happy.

Afterward she emailed me and Mike Szymanski, who had moderated the panel, with this message:

"hi Syz and Mimi,
yall did GREAT!I am so happy you did this and that you included so many of us all together!! One of my het friends from our retirement community was on the call, i saw her, it meant a lot to me that she signed on!!
meow meow meow..."

That was one of only a few emails I received directly from her and I will cherish it. Everyone in the bi+ community is standing on her strong shoulders. May her legacy live on and grow exponentially.

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11/19/2025

Repost from : 6 Ways to Disrupt Transphobia-

1) Interrupt Misinformation Immediately & Calmly: Transphobia thrives on myths. You don't need to be an expert to take action: just pause the conversation and say, "Actually, that's not accurate. Here's what I know..." Then offer a simple fact or redirect to credible sources. Consistent myth-busting, especially delivered calmly, shifts norms over time.

2) Normalize Pronouns & Gender Diversity: Share your pronouns in intros, email signatures, or bios without making it a big deal. This signals that gender diversity is expected, not exceptional. It also removes the spotlight from trans and nonbinary people and places it on shared practice.

3) Redirect Conversations from Identity Debates to Real-World Impact: Don't get stuck arguing about "beliefs." Refocus on how policies affect real people. For ex, "Let's talk about what actually helps keep people safe and supported." This keeps the conversation grounded, human, and more difficult to derail.

4) Challenge "Jokes" & Microaggressions: Staying silent in these moments is not only a sign of approval of transphobic remarks, it is permission to say them again. It doesn't matter if they say it's "just a joke." Humor often disguises hostility. A simple: "Not cool" or "Hey that stereotype isn't accurate" sends a clear signal that transphobic remarks aren't acceptable and won't be allowed to go unchecked in your presence.

5) Center & Uplift Trans Voices: Lift up trans creators, experts, organizers, and colleagues. Share their work. Quote and credit them. Trans people are the expert of their own experiences. If someone asks a question & you're not the best one to answer, say: "Here's what I know, and here's a trans person whose work goes deeper." This shifts power, not just opinions.

6) Practice Proactive Inclusion, Not Reactive Tolerance: Instead of waiting for trans people to show up, build spaces that are already affirming:
*gender-neutral forms
*inclusive restrooms
*trans-aware staff training
*policies that explicitly protect gender identity & expression
*gender-neutral uniforms/equipment

7) Awareness Alone is Not Enough!

11/18/2025

Happy Transgender Awareness Week! Our trans and non-binary siblings are being viciously targeted right now and deserve our love, protection, and support more than ever. So in honor of this week, I'd like to highlight and celebrate 10 amazing trans and non-binary leaders and advocates that I've had the privilege to work with over the years (many whom are also bisexual, pansexual, or fluid).

1) Capri Campeau (they/she), q***r non-binary actor, writer, social media creator, co-creator of A Little Q***r Podcast.

2) Cadyn Cathers, Ph.D. (he/him), bi trans psychologist, professor, founder of The Affirmative Couch, and past LABTF board member.

3) Tara Avery (she/her), a bi trans cartoonist, editor, publisher of Stacked Deck Press, past LABTF President.

4) Heron Greenesmith, Esq. (they/them), bi non-binary policy attorney, professor, and advocate at Political Research Associates and Movement Advancement Project.

5) Sydney Rogers aka Miss Barbie-Q (she/her), Black trans artist, speaker, and consultant, Vice-Chair of LA Coty LGBT Commissioner, Board member of City of WeHo Transgender Advisory Board, and Co-Director of TG/Enby Project.

6) Martin Rawlings-Fein (he/him), Jewish bi trans educator and rabbinic student, founder of BiConic Film Festival, co-organizer of SF BiCon, and co-organizer of Bay Area Bisexual and Pansexual Network.

7) Michi Fu, Ph.D. (they/them), Asian American q***r non-binary psychologist, professor, and board member of Asian American Psychological Association.

8) Jesse Bernal, LMFT (he/him), trans therapist, professor, and speaker, clinical supervisor at AMCS LGBTQ Affirmative Therapy Center. .mft

9) Ezra Young, Esq. (he/him), trans scholar and civil rights attorney, VP of board of the Jim Collins Foundation, board member of the African American Policy Forum, founder of National Trans Bar Association.

10) Jamal Epperson, Ed.D. (they/them), Black non-binary DEI advocate and leadership team of LMU LGBTQ Faculty & Staff Network.

11/13/2025

Tips for starting a bi+ group:

1) Write a clear mission statement, because your group can't be everything for everybody.

2) Choose a platform for communication, and use it often (we need reminders).

3) Recruit fellow leaders, because you will need help.

4) Develop community guidelines to create a respectful space for all.

5) Be patient and consistent - build it and they will come!

Learn more or enroll in my Bi on Leadership series.

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Dr. Mimi Hoang is a nationally-recognized psychologist, educator, author, and grassroots activist specializing in the le***an, gay, bisexual, transgender, and q***r (LGBTQ+) and Asian Pacific Islander (API) communities. Since the 1990s, she has co-founded three organizations in Los Angeles for bisexual, pansexual, fluid, and other nonmonosexual (AKA "bi+") individuals, authored multiple publications, and earned a seat at the landmark 2013 White House Bisexual Community Roundtable. Dr. Mimi's steadfast leadership has earned her multiple awards, mentions in Cosmopolitan and HuffPost, and being named “One of the Most Significant Women in the Bisexual Movement.” She currently works as a Staff Psychologist at Loyola Marymount University (LMU) Student Psychological Services, Professor of Clinical Psychology at Antioch University Los Angeles, and is the creator of the "Bi on Life" self-empowerment series.

This page is to provide updates on Dr. Mimi’s clinical, consulting, and volunteer work. She does not provide online psychotherapy or personal mentoring via FB. If you would like to request a specific professional service (e.g., presentation, referral) or to subscribe to her newsletter, please go to: www.drmimihoang.com.

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