Gay Therapy La - Ken Howard, LCSW - Psychotherapy and Coaching for Gay Men

01/03/2026

New Year’s resolutions often fail because they focus on willpower — not support.

In this blog and podcast, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST invites gay men to rethink “reaching your full potential” as something more humane and realistic:
closing the gap between the life you’re living now and the life you actually want.

That might mean:
• less self-doubt
• fewer unconscious blocks
• more confidence, clarity, and follow-through
• goals shaped by your values — not comparison or pressure

Real change isn’t about overnight reinvention.
It’s about identifying what’s quietly holding you back — and getting help dismantling it.

If your New Year’s resolution is finally doing something different, this is a grounded place to start.

🔗 Read the blog:
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🎧 Listen to the podcast:
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What’s one area of your life where you’re ready to stop shrinking this year?

12/31/2025

A new year doesn’t need new pressure.
But maybe it does deserve a fresh mindset — especially around s//x.

In his blog + podcast, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST invites gay men to reflect on three areas that shape our s//xual wellbeing:

• Mind — How do you think about s//x today vs. how you want to think about it?
• Heart — What kinds of connection do you want more of this year?
• Body — What does your body want to feel, explore, or reclaim?

This isn’t about resolutions or perfection.
It’s about shifting gently toward pleasure, confidence, curiosity, and authenticity.

Explore ways to make s//x in the new year feel more like you.

Read the article:
https://buff.ly/DOhJuYq

Listen on Apple Podcasts:
https://buff.ly/OA23BI2

What’s one small shift you’d like in your intimate life this year?

12/30/2025

New Year’s resolutions fade. Real life change doesn’t have to.

Every January, many gay men promise themselves they’ll finally change something—health, dating, confidence, work, habits—only to feel discouraged by February. In Beyond New Year’s Resolutions, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST breaks down how real, lasting change actually works using psychology, structure, and compassion—not willpower or shame.

This piece is about moving past clichés and building confidence through small, realistic steps that stick.

🔗 Read the blog:
https://buff.ly/arbEEo3

🎧 Listen to the related podcast episode:
https://buff.ly/AoGS7ws

If you’ve ever felt frustrated by resolutions that didn’t last, this one’s for you. What’s one change you’d like to approach differently this year?

12/23/2025

Christmas doesn’t have to be religious to be meaningful.

For many gay men, the holidays bring mixed emotions — family tension, religious trauma, loneliness, or pressure to feel joyful on command. In A Secular Appreciation of Christmas, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST explores how the season can be understood psychologically and culturally — as a time of light, renewal, and compassion — without belief, guilt, or obligation.

This piece is for gay men who want permission to take what’s nourishing from the season and leave the rest behind.

🔗 Read the full article:
https://buff.ly/WEwTOxI

🎧 Listen to the related podcast episode:
https://buff.ly/oboRYEZ

What parts of the holidays feel meaningful to you — and which parts feel heavy? Share if this resonates.

12/23/2025

SPREAD THE WORD!
This is the report that Trump slave Bari Weiss, new heard of CBS News, killed from broadcast on "60 Minutes".

It was leaked and is linked here.

This includes Andry Hernandez-Romero, who is the gay makeup artist detained in this group -- with NO criminal record and NO gang affiliation!

Hours before it was set to air last night, CBS News executives pulled the segment, but Canada’s Global TV app received it prior to broadcast.

12/23/2025

Every holiday season, gay men get creative.
We remix traditions, add humor, question the meaning — and sometimes give Santa a whole new personality.

In Gay Men and “Santa Daddy,” Ken Howard, LCSW, CST takes a playful but thoughtful look at why gay men so often reimagine holiday figures — and what that says about fatherhood, fantasy, intergenerational connection, loss, and resilience in our community.

Yes, it’s fun.
But it’s also psychology, culture, history, and meaning — the way gay men have always made the holidays our own.

🔗 Read the blog:
https://buff.ly/ZPE3iLC

🎧 Listen to the podcast:
https://buff.ly/jJLnw1M

So… what version of the holidays did you grow up inventing?

12/19/2025

Hanukkah doesn’t have to be religious to be meaningful.

In this new blog post, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST offers a secular reflection on Hanukkah — not as doctrine, but as a psychological and ethical practice centered on light, repair, and visibility.

For many gay men, the message feels especially relevant: you don’t have to be louder, brighter, or more impressive. You just have to stop hiding the light you already earned by surviving.

This piece explores how concepts like dedication, continuity, and tikkun olam — repairing the world — can apply to identity, mental health, aging, and self-respect, especially during a complicated December.

🔗 Read more at GayTherapyLA.com:
https://buff.ly/i5sYSfr

12/18/2025

If you hate the holidays, you’re not broken — you’re human.

For many gay men, this season concentrates loneliness, family stress, financial pressure, old wounds, and expectations we never agreed to carry. In his latest blog post, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST names what so many feel but rarely say out loud — and offers practical, compassionate coping strategies that actually help.

This isn’t about forcing cheer or pretending everything is fine. It’s about self-validation, boundaries, and getting through the season without abandoning yourself.

If the holidays feel heavy this year, this piece is for you.

🔗 Read more at GayTherapyLA.com:
https://buff.ly/zQ5efKe

12/18/2025

New blog article today!

A Secular Appreciation of Hanukkah: Light, Repair, and the Courage to Be Seen By Ken Howard, LCSW, CSTGay men’s specialist psychotherapist (CA) and coach (worldwide) Hanukkah is often framed as a religious holiday, but like Christmas, Easter, or Yom Kippur, it can also be understood secularly—as...

12/18/2025

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Join “Starting Your Own Business: A Guide for Gay Male Entrepreneurs” — a 9‑chapter, video‑based course by Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, designed specifically for gay men who want autonomy, confidence, and real-world startup tools.

Learn mindset strategies + practical steps so you can stop working for others and build a business that aligns with YOU.

Enrollment includes self‑empowerment exercises, passion‑to‑plan modules, and networking guidance tailored to gay male entrepreneurs.

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12/18/2025

New blog article today! 😂

It’s OK to hate the holidays. Learn practical coping skills for gay men facing loneliness, family stress, relationship tension, and holiday depression.

12/17/2025

Unlock your confidence and embrace your s*xuality with expert guidance from Ken Howard, LCSW, CST. Whether you're single, partnered, kinky, vanilla—this course offers practical tools and mindset shifts for empowered s*xual self‑assurance.

✨ Learn how to:
• Shift from insecurity to comfort in your body
• Express your desires with clarity
• Discover and attract your ideal partner

Built specifically for gay men by a gay-affirmative s*x therapist with 30+ years experience.

🎯 Ready to feel confident and fulfilled? Enroll now via https://bit.ly/gayself