Dr. Jan Anderson

01/01/2026

📞 When every attempt to reconnect ends in silence—or when your gestures feel like drops in a bottomless well—it can feel like the only options are:
➤ Keep trying and keep hurting
➤ Stop trying and feel like you’ve given up

There’s a third way. I can help you find it.

Whether you're a parent, a partner, or a professional—if you’re tired of doing all the emotional heavy lifting, let’s talk.

👉 Book a free consult at https://bit.ly/3TlSKQc

12/29/2025

Before you set another goal for 2026… pause.
What are you carrying into the new year—and does it still belong to you?

This season, I’m inviting my clients and readers into a different kind of reset.
Not a resolution.
Not a reinvention.

Just a grounded, honest reflection on what to keep, what to let go, and what to grow.

Ready to begin?
Read the latest blog and download your free Year-End Emotional Inventory Worksheet.

Link in bio or visit https://bit.ly/3Yk8jKG

12/20/2025

🎄 When your child is absent during the holidays—by choice, not by chance—it changes everything.

Most parents are wired to fix, nurture, reach out, and try harder.
But with estrangement, the usual parenting playbook… doesn’t just fail—it backfires.

In this blog, I explore a quiet but powerful shift:
What if “backing off” isn’t giving up—but growing up?

It’s a counterintuitive approach that moves you:
💠 From pain to perspective
💠 From chasing connection to reclaiming self-respect
💠 From being erased to finding new ground to stand on

You’ll also find rituals to soften the ache, including one woman’s surprising act of goodwill that shifted her grief—if only for a moment.

📝 Read the full blog → https://bit.ly/4nSDozi

Dr. Jan Anderson offers expert advice for parents estranged from adult children, providing strategies to navigate holiday pain and work towards reconnection.

12/09/2025

💔 Know someone doing the emotional heavy lifting in a relationship—while walking on eggshells the whole time?

Share this with them.
They don’t have to go it alone.
They don’t have to choose between over-giving and shutting down.

There’s a third way forward—one that protects their heart and their dignity.

🔗 https://bit.ly/4oEIOPT

12/03/2025

When I tell high-performing clients I want to teach them a breathing technique, I often get the look.
Until I add: “It’s the one Navy SEALs use in combat zones.”

Suddenly, it’s not fluff. It’s performance science.

Box breathing—inhale 4, hold 4, exhale 4, hold 4—is a simple, research-backed way to regulate your nervous system under pressure.
It’s one of the fastest ways to reset your physiology so your brain can stay strategic when everything around you feels chaotic.

The smartest performers aren’t the ones who push the hardest.
They’re the ones who know when to recalibrate before they unravel.

12/03/2025

💬 “This feels like a Catch-22. I don’t want to give up… but I don’t want to keep getting hurt.”

Whether it’s your child, your partner, or someone you love deeply—when every effort goes unnoticed, it wears on you.

That’s why I created The Gift Dilemma Worksheet. It’s a tool to help you recalibrate—so you stop giving from anxiety, and start giving from alignment.

💡 Use this worksheet to:
— Stop over-functioning
— Make values-based decisions
— Take your next step without regret

📥 Download it here → https://bit.ly/4nU4KW0

11/25/2025

🎄 You can be grateful and grieving.
You can show up for the holidays and still need space to fall apart a little.

When someone important to you is missing, the holidays can become emotional landmines.
Old traditions suddenly feel unbearable. Even simple joys can sting.

You don’t have to pretend it’s all okay.
And you don’t have to burn it all down either.

This blog shares healing rituals that honor your loss and your capacity to keep going—at your own pace.

✨ You’ll discover:
— How to gently rework holiday traditions
— Ways to honor your loved one without feeling overwhelmed
— Ideas for bringing grief and meaning to the table

💡 If you or someone you love is navigating the holidays after loss, this may help.

📝 Read the full blog → https://bit.ly/43WQm88

11/20/2025

📝 When both options feel wrong—do more, or go quiet—there is another path.

In my latest blog, I walk through the story of a mother navigating the “gift dilemma.” But this isn’t just about holidays or family. It’s about any relationship where your effort outweighs your peace.

✨ Read the story
🎯 Get the strategy
🧠 Understand the psychology

Read the article here: https://bit.ly/4oEIOPT

11/15/2025

🎥 Feel like you’re always the one reaching out… and getting nothing back?

Whether it’s a family member, a partner, or even a friend—you keep trying, and what comes back feels like breadcrumbs.

In just 10 minutes, I’ll walk you through how one client stopped over-giving and started showing up with dignity instead of desperation.

▶️ Watch the video here https://youtu.be/fN381PPivnY

Every birthday, holiday, or milestone becomes a painful dilemma:Do I send something—again—or stop trying altogether?In estranged parent-child relationships, ...

11/08/2025

High achievers often say:
“I can’t slow down… everything will fall apart.”

But here’s the truth:
You don’t need more grit. You need a smarter gear.

Self-compassion isn’t about being soft.
It’s about accessing the part of your brain that performs with clarity—not chaos.

If you’re tired of pushing through and ready to perform with presence instead...
Let’s talk → https://bit.ly/3TlSKQc

11/03/2025

Self-compassion isn’t soft. It’s strategic.

Research shows people who practice it take more responsibility, bounce back faster, and stay in the game longer.

It’s not weakness—it’s efficiency.