VitalBody Therapeutic Massage and Coaching

09/02/2021

A GUIDE TO GETTING YOURSELF OUT OF A FUNK:

After the year I’ve had (and who hasn’t had a year, really), I have a profound understanding of what it means to grow and change. Sometimes it looks like needing a break and allowing yourself to take one. Sometimes it looks suspiciously like old patterns and your brain thinks, “I guess I haven’t changed at all”, but the fact that you are even uncomfortable IS the change. I don’t know about you, but I’ve never changed anything in my life without being inconvenienced at best. It takes work and it takes even more work to not give up when you get tired or when things don’t work out the way you thought.

So what do we do?

Because I know you’ve been there too. Maybe you are there right now.

1. Stop everything you need to stop.

Stop the news, stop social media, stop people that drain you, stop any extra responsibilities you can, stop trying to be the rock for everyone else, stop adding to your to do list. Just stop. What can you hand over to someone else today? Can someone else make the dinner, can you take the day off, can you let the the house be a mess, just for today?

2. What do you need to feel? FEEL IT. Feel it all the way through.

No stuffing it back down with positivity or ice cream or Netflix or God. I’m serious. We don’t let ourselves feel our emotions in our culture and it creates addictions and health issues and a host of other problems that we blame on everyone else but us. You are human. You have feelings. Feel them. It’s okay. You won’t die from crying or from punching a pillow. You might pop a blood vessel screaming, so you know, be somewhat mindful of how hard you are treating your body in the process, but let it flow through. Stuck sadness, anger and resentment creates nasty, nasty things in our bodies, not to mention gets passed down in ugly ways through the generations, so please know how important this work is.

3. Now, notice what you feel you need from others and give it to yourself in the deepest, most compassionate way.

I know you have heard this before but we are human and need constant reminders:

There is nothing that someone else or something else can give you that will give you peace. You feel this when you reach a goal but somehow still feel that “not good enough” feeling inside.

So give yourself everything you are craving. I mean this in the deep, deep ways, not eat the chocolate cake and take the bath but really, truly what gentleness, what love, what hope, what sweetness, what rejuvenation do you need…give yourself that, take as long as you need, you owe the world nothing and can give very little anyway when you are spent. Fill yourself to the brim with all the goodness you can find and summon it within yourself. This. Is. Your. Job.

Let me repeat that because we get confused and think our job, our purpose, our responsibility is to everyone and everything else:

Feeling good is your job. Far more important than any other. Without it, you aren’t all that helpful and you might actually be hurting others or yourself, so please, please give yourself everything you need to feel loved.

4. Ask for support in the way you desire it from trusted ones if you need it. Therapy, coaching, a friend, your partner, a group, your church, just whoever builds you back up in a supportive, accountable way, ask those people for what you need. I am a coach AND I have a coach. I am a massage therapist and I receive massage. Everyone needs support. Make sure you have support.

5. Take as long as you need. Don’t worry if you aren’t bouncing back in a day. You aren’t a battery. Your recharging is a unique process, so honor yourself and trust that you will be back when you are ready and you can’t rush the process of healing and growing.

6. Let’s not take ourselves too seriously. We are after afterall pretty silly creatures.

Your homework is to watch the latest film version of “Emma” with Anya Taylor-Joy. Watch it and laugh at the beautiful absurd-ness of people and how it’s always been relevant, throughout the centuries. Watch how Bill Nighy has very few lines in the movie compared to others, and yet, every time he’s onscreen you find yourself giggling. So good. Plus, you know, romance, gorgeous costumes, and scenery.

Or, you know, watch something YOU like that makes YOU feel good. 😉

I hope this helps. I could not have made this post at all if I didn’t live out what I teach to others, so know that I’m doing the work with you. Be kind out there.
😘🥰❤️

08/19/2021

Yes, we can always focus on all the atrocities, the stress, the pain, the anger and the sadness and,
of course, we should give all those things space inside us to move (toxic positivity is real, folks, and it can also make you sick),

AND

at the same time there’s so much beauty and kindness and health that we are missing.

We are so ready and willing to be upset all the time. I actually think we are addicted to it. But what if we chose to add to the beauty and kindness in the world?

What if we used ourselves in the best way, with all of our skills, passions and talents, to help heal and contribute and celebrate in our own unique ways the best that people have to offer?

What do you have to offer? What are you adding to this world? We have enough guilt, anger, shame and sadness. What will YOU give us? How will YOU help? How will YOU contribute in your own unique and beautiful way?

How will you heal yourself and how will that ripple out?

There’s so much potential in you. USE IT.
🌊🌊🌊🌊

08/15/2021

I’ve been a working licensed massage therapist for 11 years.

Ten years ago I started my entrepreneurship journey going out on my own, always feeling like something was missing. I liked it well enough, I was good at it, but I felt like something was missing for me and for my clients. I knew that massage was important, that it could help people so much and yet, I felt like it didn’t use all my abilities and didn’t meet enough of my client’s actual needs. Needs which were usually, a deep disconnection with their bodies, ignoring their highest visions for themselves and building lives that they thought they should build, instead of what actually felt good for them. I knew it was a bandaid for a lot of people and wasn’t helping them at a deep enough level.

Some people were too busy to take the time to listen to their bodies or perhaps too scared or too traumatized or untrusting of connecting to their bodies. Most people believed that living in stress was normal, that the best we can do is counteract the damage, instead of looking at the source of the problem. It was as if massage was an escape from their bodies and lives, instead of a connection to their bodies and lives. I was being treated like I knew people’s bodies better than they did, like I was a guru that could heal them. Or worse, like it was my job to drop everything and fix them every few months when their bodies were inevitably hitting a breaking point because they weren’t taking time for themselves the rest of the year.

After beginning a coaching program this year to have an alternative when I’m unable to be in the same room with a client, the work led me to realize how much my own life and business needed recalibration. That my desire to show up 100% as myself, to live what I teach and love what I do meant I needed be more than a massage therapist. I think I’ve always known that massage was not the end game for me but I never knew what the next chapter looked like. Turns out the next chapter is I’m a holistic life coach, a BodyMind Life Coach.

So now I’m working to change my business to use massage to help people reconnect with themselves, not run away from themselves. I coach you to listen to your heart and your gut and stop letting old rules dictate who you are and what your life looks like. It takes courage to live this way. It’s also the most loving thing to do for yourself. Stop hurting yourself the way others hurt you in the past. Stop telling yourself lies about how much you need to accomplish, what your body needs to look like, how your to do list makes you worthy, how your busyness means your enough, how the applause and accolades mean your lovable and how your brokenness makes you special. (By the way, these we’re all things I needed myself. So trust me, I’ve been there.)

What I want you to know today is this:

🌟No one knows your body better than you. No one. And if you aren’t taking the time to nurture that connection, to listen to what your body is saying with your aches, pains, injuries, overwhelm, anxiety, depression and stress, then eventually your body will speak in louder and louder and more painful ways. I’ve heard it said, “The body speaks first and if you don’t listen, it also speaks last.”

🌟Also, there’s nothing normal about stress. Our bodies were not meant to live in stress day in and day out. If that is your reality, something needs to change for you. Period.

🌟You are your own guru. Only you can facilitate the change needed in your life. Only you can know what works for you, what feels good for you, and what honors your lifestyle and values.

How I can help:
I believe to my very core that when people are living aligned lives, when they are living and feeling NOW the way they want to live and feel, not people pleasing, not dimming their own lights, not playing small to make others more comfortable, not waiting for vacation, retirement, the money, the time, the energy, the relationship, the body, the job, the permission, but giving themselves NOW the love, the enough-ness, the beauty, the fun, that they always desired and craved, then WE ALL GET TO BENEFIT. Because when we fill ourselves up with goodness, what overflows? Goodness.

I help people stop the perfectionism, stop the people pleasing, stop the negative thinking, so that they can start speaking up, standing out and giving themselves the life they’ve always wanted.

If this sounds like you and you are DONE playing small, send me a message to see how we can work together.

Also, feel free to follow my business page, VitalBody Therapeutic Massage and Coaching for more content of this nature.

And also, yes, you can still get a massage without coaching. For now. 😉

07/21/2021

If you're new to my page or you haven't been to see me in a while, I'd like to explain to you that, like you, the last year has changed me profoundly. I realized that my old ways of doing things were no longer working for me, both in business and in my personal life. So back in February this year, I made decision and an investment to up-level my life and my business by learning, implementing and becoming a coach of an embodied style of life coaching called "BodyMind Coaching". What I've learned through this process has been transformational and now I want to help you show up in your life in transformational ways too!

But what does coaching have to do with massage?

Well, first off, it's always been my belief that treating the body separate than the mind is a massive oversight in our culture. We already know that the mind can influence the body and the body can influence the mind, whether it's placebos or power poses. So why are we always treating them separately?

Second, the body is a mostly untapped source of wisdom that when fully engaged and listened to, can tell you what you need to know and do to move forward in life (ahem, igniting that intuition). And that is what a massage session paired with a BodyMind coaching session can provide you, the answers you've been seeking (coming from your body's own innate wisdom, not me!) and a way of living that will change how you show up in your life and what, in turn, starts showing up for you in your life.

Lastly, sometimes inexplicable chronic pain in the body is a result of the body storing emotions that we haven't allowed ourselves to feel, so massage alone is not enough to shift pain at that level. BodyMind coaching can bring a voice to this pain and allow us to finally address what our body needs to feel better

So basically, I can add in coaching to my already fabulous massages to make them more effective for your body, as well as use massage within a coaching framework to allow you to tap into your highest vision for yourself that you've always wanted, but haven't had the courage, support, accountability, and/or framework to put into action.

And the timing couldn't be more perfect, because I know a lot of us are in major transitions right now after the stress of the last year. We are trying to figure out how to fit the new versions of ourselves into the old templates of our lives and it's uncomfortable. We worry if our friends and family will accept these new changes in us. We are fighting to accept some of these changes ourselves (hello, weight gain). Maybe we are excited about the changes we've experienced but are a bit overwhelmed (how's that new business coming?). Or maybe we are feeling that a change is needed but we haven't been able to implement it (why is it so hard to meditate sometimes?). Maybe we know exactly what we need but we can never seem to give it to ourselves. Maybe we've had the same struggle as long as we can remember and we can't seem to move past it, despite all the self-help books we've read. These are all examples of things that BodyMind Coaching would be perfect for, by the way.

If any of that resonates for you and your curious if I can help, you can begin moving forward today by booking a complimentary discovery call with me at this link:

https://app.squarespacescheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=22992052&appointmentType=24339291

I'm so excited to see you transform and for you to connect with your body and your life in this new way!

Tamara Dearing,
LMT and BodyMind Coach

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07/13/2021

When it comes to self-care, I always like to tell people to find what feels good and works because it’s more likely to stick if you enjoy it.

If you enjoy passionate self-care musings and self-improvement challenges, feel free to follow me on my Instagram and Facebook handle One Human Doing.

06/24/2021

Ever been talking with someone and their eyes glaze over? I’m a massage therapist and coach that likes to help my clients feel truly heard and seen in their bodies and minds so that they can truly understand what their next steps are in their lives and have the support and accountability to follow through.

The beauty of BodyMind Coaching is I can work with you remotely on Zoom if you aren’t in the Louisville area, so if this resonates, please let me know!

Message me or text me at (502) 295-0107 to set up a free discovery call. I want to know what’s going on for you now, how you want to feel in the future and discuss what steps we can take together to get you there!

05/26/2020

I'm currently booking for June with a very sanitized office and a smile behind my mask.

04/03/2020

Per our governor's request and CDC guidelines I will remain closed through April. Please everyone take care of yourselves and shelter in place. You could save someone's life.

03/09/2020

Getting to the 20-second mark is as easy as singing your ABCs. But what you do during those 20 seconds of scrubbing up to reduce coronavirus risk does take some training.

04/09/2016

02/25/2016

A massage can be the fresh start you need after a stressful week/month/year. Call/text 502-295-0107 to schedule.