Emerging Therapy with Melinda Thomas, MA, LPC

01/05/2026

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"the antidote".

01/04/2026

What beneficial habits did you have in your routine in 2025? Recommit to those in 2026! ✨

01/04/2026

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01/02/2026

It’s a new year! This can be the start of something that will be life changing. It could be a personal goal or it could be a meaningful relationship. There’s no doubt that human connection and relationships are central to our happiness. That is so true, yet the wrong relationships can cause immense pain as well.

So if you meet someone new in 2026, and you’re trying to determine if you’re a match, I’d say always listen to your gut first and foremost. Make sure their actions and words align. And if everything is going great, enjoy the ride! But…

Yes, but. There has to be. You know why? Because in the first six months the love hormones are firing as if you’re on a co***ne high. That’s a normal chemical reaction to new love.

After about the first six months to a year, reality can become a bit more clear. Things you didn’t notice initially may crop up. Dynamics may shift.

This is why dating a full year before engagement is critical. You need time to truly get to know this person—the good as well as the challenging aspects. No matter how wonderful they are, there will be some adjustments and adaptation time is needed.

If you’re feeling this person is a wonderful partner a year into dating because their actions and words match, because they double your joy and divide your pain and you feel safe with them, engagement may be the next step. But….

Yes, another but! Engagement should also last one year as well. Why be engaged for a year? Because people change sometimes when the relationship’s commitment increases. Stay engaged for a year. See if this relationship still continues to blossom and grow during this time. Then, after two years knowing your Love, then you have a much better picture of who they are and who you are together.

For more on the topic of finding and marrying the right person, I invite you to check out the book Whom Not To Marry by Father Pat Connor. Excellent read!

Wishing you love, health and happiness in 2026!!!
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12/23/2025

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Success is just your tolerance for discomfort over time.

That's it. That's the whole formula.

Can you get rejected over and over and still send the next email? Can you sit in uncertainty for years without grabbing the first easy exit? Can you be publicly wrong and not retreat?

Most people think they're missing a strategy. Or a connection. Or a skill.

They're not. They're missing stamina for the uncomfortable part.

Everyone's fine when it's working. The filter is what happens when it isn't.

The successful people I know aren't braver or smarter. They just didn't leave. They got rejected the same amount. They felt uncertain the same amount. They just kept going anyway.

Your competition isn't the talented people. It's the people who can stay in the room after the discomfort starts.

Most won't. That's the opportunity.

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12/21/2025

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12/17/2025

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12/14/2025

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11/24/2025

Sending a big heart of love to all the parents out there dealing with this. I wish I could change it for you.

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🥀There’s no answer,
no neat explanation,
but I still dig.
Because not knowing
feels worse
than truth.
I search for a reason,
and only find
heartbreak. Grieving Parents