08/12/2025
Before the First Day
Reflect on the summer and get excited about the upcoming school year. Then, talk to your child about school at a different time.
• Find a relaxed time when you can give your full attention, such as after dinner or at another quiet moment.
• Skip questions your kids don’t want to answer or don’t understand.
• Make sure not to force a discussion; stop asking questions if they don’t want to talk.
• If you have several children, you may want to find one-on-one time with each of them rather than trying to ask them all at once in a group.
Talk about and practice any expected changes.
• Have a conversation about any changes that will happen this school year.
• If your child is meeting the bus in a new location, visit the bus stop with them a few times before the first day of school.
• For children starting middle or high school, visiting the school and practicing how to walk from one class to another may be helpful. Many schools have these visit days scheduled. Make sure to reach out and find out when they are!
Get back into a routine.
• Sit down together and create a schedule for school days. Talk through expectations for mornings and after school. Once you agree on that, start using that schedule a few weeks before school starts to get into the habit.
• Sleep schedules are often different over the summer. About two weeks before school starts, gradually (for example, 15 minutes each day) move your child’s bedtime and wake-up time back to what they will be during the school year.
Get organized.
• Designate a place for your child to work on homework, keep school materials, etc.
• Include your child in picking out supplies, choosing a spot and deciding where to put things away. This helps them learn organizational skills.
• Print the school calendar to help you plan ahead. Also, you can use it throughout the year to notice how it may be related to your child’s mood and emotional changes. For instance, you may notice that your child has increased anxiety at the end of the semester.
Discuss expectations – yours and your child’s.
• Ask your child what their goals are for the school year if age appropriate.
• Come up with a plan with your child of when and how to ask for help when they need it. This can be school staff or peers, depending on the child’s concern.
• Remind them of your rules and expectations. For example, is your rule that homework be done before screen time?
Connect with the school.
• Feeling connected to their school is positive for children’s mental health, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. You can support school connectedness by showing interest in their teachers and school activities.
• Meet their teachers at the start of the school year and talk about your child’s goals, strengths and areas of growth.
• Take note of school events for families and add them to your calendar. Showing up to events increases children’s feelings of support and connection to their school.
• Encourage your child to get involved in activities outside of schoolwork. Look at the school website together to see what clubs and sports are offered or meet with the school counselor.
On the first day, don't forget to set them up for success! Make sure they get enough sleep and the morning goes smoothly. Taking a few deep breaths with them before heading out the door can help calm everyone. After school, celebrate the start of the school year with a fun meal or treat!
