12/18/2025
You get to define what a meaningful holiday looks like. Not the version full of “shoulds.” I should do more. I should enjoy this more. I should want this.
If a “should” shows up, pause and ask: Where did this come from? My family, my fear, someone else’s voice?
You don’t have to reject it either. Just set it on the shelf for a moment. Think of it like an adult version of Elf on the Shelf - not watching, not judging. Just placed somewhere you don’t have to carry it right now.
Then translate it into a want. “I want this to feel lighter.” "I want to enjoy myself.” If the holidays feel heavy, overwhelming, or like too much - that’s not a personal failure. It’s a signal. And you’re allowed to listen to it.
Skipping traditions, saying no, doing less, choosing ease - these aren’t signs you’re “ruining” anything. Often, they’re how we protect connection, regulation, and ourselves.
