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Martha Kauppi

Every therapist should talk about s*x in therapy.

03/16/2026

Friends, what’s your reaction to this quote?
My take: Love shouldn’t be a competition. You can love different people differently. You don’t have to rank them.
Long-term, durable relationships often don’t get the shine they deserve. New love tends to be flashier, but how many relationships stand the test of time? Consider your own relationship history and you’ll see: Love that weathers the decades is rare.
Serial monogamy happens when people switch to a new relationship as soon as the going gets tough. When you do that, you never build the skills to make a partnership last. It’s a missed opportunity for growth… and there are other ways to deal with falling in love with a new person besides tossing aside your long-term partner (non-monogamy, anyone?).
By the way… I can’t find any evidence that Johnny Depp actually said this, but it’s such a perfect depiction of the serial monogamy mindset that I couldn’t resist commenting.

03/12/2026

"So what does it actually mean to be a parent? I don't think you have to do everything. You don't have to do everything your kids want you to do, by any means. However, it's good not to do things that are gonna completely upset the apple cart and unsettle your kids when it's easily predictable that it will."

03/09/2026

In our most recent episode of our new podcast, Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith and I explore pleasure. From physiology to psychiology, we dive deep on this topic. We also discuss common blocks people can experience. Find more at the link below!
https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/untangling-intimacy

03/06/2026

What do you do when you have a couple as clients, but in an individual session, one person tells you something huge that they want to keep secret from their partner?

03/04/2026

Get started working with consensual non-monogamy! My short and sweet training, “Polyamory: Therapeutic Challenges, Confrontations, and Solutions,” will help you hit the ground running, with cultural competence and strategic interventions for common issues.
https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/polyamory-webinar

03/02/2026

"My role literally is: change the status quo." A lot of therapy is about changing patterns in the lives of our clients; this can force us as therapists to be the destabilizing agent for them and we have to take leadership of that.

02/27/2026

"What's he doing inside of himself that diminishes his desire? He thinks a bunch of negative thoughts about himself. So I would say when you think those thoughts about yourself, what happens to your desire? So I'm asking questions that are in and of themselves at therapeutic intervention as well." Helping a client think about how their thoughts impact their feelings is an important part of any therapy. When we're talking about s*x therapy, that can include how the client is experiencing desire.

02/24/2026

If you could change one thing about the culture of therapy, what would it be?

02/19/2026

How do you help a client address a potential conversation that feels impossible? I use a technique called chair work, and I describe it in this video.

02/16/2026

“What does it mean to do relational work with individual clients? It might sound contradictory, but it’s actually one of my very favorite ways to work — and it has the potential to resolve some serious issues that individual therapists often face.” Read more in the blog post at the link below!
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/relational-intimacy/202602/what-does-it-mean-to-do-relational-work-with-individual-clients

02/13/2026

Have you ever treated a quad in your practice? What are the pros and cons? I address some of the potential issues in this video.

02/11/2026

Do you want to learn *THE* intervention for healthy, happy s*x over a lifetime? This is it — the most powerful thing you can teach your clients (or apply to your own life!) My webinar “Great S*x For Life: Introducing An Improvisational S*xual Style” is all about the underlying skills that support lifelong intimacy.
https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/great-s*x-for-life

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