12/24/2025
Being lied to or being lied about doesn't just “𝐡𝐮𝐫𝐭 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬.”
They can unravel someone’s sense of 𝐬𝐚𝐟𝐞𝐭𝐲, 𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐭𝐲, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐠𝐢𝐧𝐠.
Lies to us or about us can 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐮𝐦𝐚.
It’s not “drama.” It’s 𝐬𝐨𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭 + 𝐥𝐨𝐬𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐬𝐚𝐟𝐞𝐭𝐲.
You may feel 𝐩𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐜, 𝐧𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞𝐚, 𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐧𝐢𝐚, 𝐡𝐲𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐢𝐠𝐢𝐥𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞, 𝐠𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐟, 𝐫𝐚𝐠𝐞, even suicidal.
You may start: 𝐫𝐞𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬, 𝐬𝐜𝐚𝐧𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐚𝐜𝐞𝐬, 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟, 𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠.
💔If someone repeatedly lied to you, it can affect your perception of 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐨𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐬.
🧠 Your brain tries to fix it by “𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐭𝐡.” But rumor systems don’t play fair.
🛡️ Healing starts when you stop 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐫𝐨𝐰𝐝 and start 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐭𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐨𝐮𝐬 𝐬𝐲𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐦.
🤍 If your name became a story: 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐞 𝐬𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭, 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐦𝐞.
💔 The hardest part: people you trusted may 𝐤𝐞𝐞𝐩 𝐢𝐭 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐲𝐨𝐮, 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐯𝐞 𝐢𝐭, 𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐭, 𝐨𝐫 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐲 𝐬𝐢𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐭.
If you’re in the middle of it: 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐰𝐞𝐚𝐤. Your nervous system is responding to a 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭.
At 𝐆𝐫𝐢𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐆𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐞, we have trained professionals that specialize in this specific kind of trauma—𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐮𝐦𝐚 𝐨𝐟 𝐛𝐞𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐲𝐚𝐥. Through CBT, EFT, or EMDR, we can help.
Don’t go through this alone, no matter how alone you feel.
ℝ𝕖𝕒𝕔𝕙 𝕠𝕦𝕥 𝕥𝕠 𝕦𝕤
Phone/Text: 217-530-5608
Email: gritandgraceillinois@gmail.com
Website: gritandgraceillinois.com
