04/23/2026
Some kids do not warm up to a new therapist right away. And honestly? I never expect them to.
Walking into a session with a new adult, new toys, and new expectations can feel like a lot. Especially for kids who are sensitive, cautious, or just need more time to feel safe.
So when a child hangs back, avoids eye contact, clings to a parent, or wants nothing to do with me at first, I do not take that as a problem.
I take it as information.
Building trust is the work before the work.
That usually looks like:
✨ sitting nearby without demanding interaction
✨ noticing what they’re interested in instead of redirecting them
✨ joining their play slowly, not taking it over
✨ keeping my voice, body, and expectations calm
✨ letting them decide when I’ve earned a little more space
Sometimes the first session is just me being a safe, predictable presence. And that matters more than most people realize.
Because once a child trusts me, everything else gets easier. More interaction. More play. More communication. More willingness to try.
At Not Just Words, this is a huge part of why I love working in a child’s natural environment. Kids are already in a space that feels familiar, and I can build connection within their real routines instead of expecting them to perform in a brand new setting.
We focus on regulation before expectation, child-led play, and parent collaboration because trust is not built through pressure. It is built through safety, consistency, and connection.
If your child is slow to warm up, that does not mean therapy is not working. Sometimes it means your child is listening closely and deciding whether this feels safe first. And I respect that. 💛
If you’re wondering what therapy could look like for your child, reach out for a complimentary consultation. I’d love to connect.