12/09/2024
We closed out our fourth trimester just over a week ago and there are a few things I’m so grateful that we did:
•On demand breastfeeding - in the first 2 1/2 months, if Summer was awake, she was nursing, until she went back to sleep again. Occasionally this would be paused for a diaper change, but if she really still needed to nurse, we figured out how to change her while nursing.
Now, when she feeds, I can tell when she’s done and has had enough. She has more play and social time between then and her next nap. These first few months established a supply that exactly meets her needs.
•Skin to skin with dad whenever he had time holding her.
It was challenging to go to the bathroom or shower while hearing her cries for me. The crying is definitely a learning curve as a new mom. Although, what was most important to me was that she was communicating and that she was always in loving arms if she was crying. I know that because she had that contact and special time with her dad, he is now able to soothe her into naps too.
•Contact naps and bed sharing
I know this time with her is temporary and I love the snuggles. We are both most settled when we are resting together. All of this co regulation is setting a strong foundation in her nervous system for life. I know there is a lot of fear mongering out there. Although, honestly when I’ve heard first hand accounts in bed sharing groups, I often hear that a mother caught an emergency situation that saved baby’s life *because* she was sleeping by their side.
Meal prep and a big freezer-
At the end of my pregnancy, I prepared and froze 40 meals for my husband and me. These were specialty soups and stews to nourish my body, supporting milk production and recovery. Now, we cook a big batch meal once or twice a week and always have good quality food on hand.
While being a newborn mother is an existential metamorphosis, I put my trust into God’s design of our physiology. We are a dyad and her needs are my needs too. Sometimes it can feel like I don’t know who I am anymore, but I can also see this new version of me emerging, guided by her, by God and by my perfectly made motherly instincts. 💞