Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy

02/07/2026

02/06/2026

This is my top book recommendation as a s*x therapist. It’s the s*x ed you didn’t get, plus so much more.

Have you read Come As You Are?

You can also check out my bookshop for more book recommendations: https://bookshop.org/shop/drlaurenfogelmersy

Disclaimer: Content is for educational purposes and doesn’t constitute therapy. Posts are generalized and may not fit all individuals or situations. My posts don’t speak to situations of abuse, active addiction, or certain mental health conditions.

02/06/2026

Actionable ways to participate in community and resist fascism. Everyone has a role.

Disclaimer: Content is for educational purposes and doesn’t constitute therapy. Posts are generalized and may not fit all individuals or situations. My posts don’t speak to situations of abuse, active addiction, or certain mental health conditions.

02/06/2026

I’m currently at 5/8, but only because my work is fully virtual. 😆

Therapists: how many of these resonate for you?

Clients: how many of these fit your therapist?

Disclaimer: Content is for educational purposes and doesn’t constitute therapy. Posts are generalized and may not fit all individuals or situations. My posts don’t speak to situations of abuse, active addiction, or certain mental health conditions.

02/06/2026

Common needs behind a complaint:

• I need to know that I can trust you
• I need to know that I matter to you
• I need to know that you’re there for me
• I need to know that I’m a priority to you
• I need to know that you care about me

Here are some examples of how to get curious about the need behind the complaint:

• “It sounds like you need to know that you can trust me to follow through on this, am I getting that right?”
• “I’m wondering if part of why you’re upset is because you need to know that you’re a priority to me, is that it?”
• “I can see that you’re upset and I’m wondering if you could tell me more about your perspective on this? I want to make sure I’m understanding you.”

Ideally, the partner sharing the complaint is working on communicating these underlying needs more clearly. But all partners have an opportunity to break negative cycles and get to the heart of the message.

Source: The Gottman Institute and Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy.

Disclaimer: Content is for educational purposes and doesn’t constitute therapy. Posts are generalized and may not fit all individuals or situations. My posts don’t speak to situations of abuse, active addiction, or certain mental health conditions.

02/05/2026

It’s still fairly new for therapists to have a social media presence. It’s really only ramped up over the past 10 years. There are so many things to consider when creating content as a licensed clinician. Some of these behaviors I have only heard about from people who have been harmed by them.

Disclaimer: Content is for educational purposes and doesn’t constitute therapy. Posts are generalized and may not fit all individuals or situations. My posts don’t speak to situations of abuse, active addiction, or certain mental health conditions.

02/05/2026

Just a few ideas for how to check in and stay connected.

Disclaimer: Content is for educational purposes and doesn’t constitute therapy. Posts are generalized and may not fit all individuals or situations. My posts don’t speak to situations of abuse, active addiction, or certain mental health conditions.

02/05/2026

Not weak. Not codependent. Necessary.

Feeling these words now more than ever as I watch communities in Minnesota come together to support each other.

Disclaimer: Content is for educational purposes and doesn’t constitute therapy. Posts are generalized and may not fit all individuals or situations. My posts don’t speak to situations of abuse, active addiction, or certain mental health conditions.

02/04/2026

Thank you Catherine Pearson for asking me to contribute to this article.

Always happy to be in the good company of my colleague, .

Check it out here: https://www.nytimes.com/2026/02/04/well/bridgerton-orgasm-pinnacle.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share

02/04/2026

It’s totally fine if you’ve use this word incorrectly before. Many people have.

Check out this article from The Cleveland Clinic to learn more: health.clevelandclinic.org/trauma-bonding

Disclaimer: Content is for educational purposes and doesn’t constitute therapy. Posts are generalized and may not fit all individuals or situations. My posts don’t speak to active addiction or certain mental health conditions.

02/02/2026

Just a therapist living in the Twin Cities in awe of my community. Thank you to the helpers. It matters. ♥️

Disclaimer: Content is for educational purposes and doesn’t constitute therapy. Posts are generalized and may not fit all individuals or situations. My posts don’t speak to situations of abuse, active addiction, or certain mental health conditions.

02/01/2026

Thinking of survivors. Always standing with you.

Please note that I’m not an abuse, domestic violence, or narcissism specialist. I only have a generalized understanding of this model. I just think it’s an important concept to know about.

Disclaimer: Content is for educational purposes and doesn’t constitute therapy. Posts are generalized and may not fit all individuals or situations. My posts don’t speak to situations of relationship abuse, active addiction, or certain mental health conditions.