Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy

11/09/2025

Not all pleasure rooms involve whips or leather. 😂

11/09/2025

To learn more, check out this blog post from ➡️ https://www.gottman.com/blog/listen-without-getting-defensive/

Sources: “Name it to tame it” comes from Dr. Dan Siegel’s work. Taking a break for 20+ minutes is based on the Gottman’s search on emotional flooding.

Disclaimer: Content is for educational purposes and doesn’t constitute therapy. Posts are generalized and may not fit all individuals or situations. My posts don’t speak to situations of abuse, active addiction, or certain mental health conditions.

11/08/2025

Do you or your partner tend to get defensive? Do any of these reasons resonate?

Disclaimer: Content is for educational purposes and doesn’t constitute therapy. Posts are generalized and may not fit all individuals or situations. My posts don’t speak to situations of abuse, active addiction, or certain mental health conditions.

11/08/2025

Here’s a breakdown of what’s stressing out Americans these days.

APA's latest Stress in America survey finds concerns about the future of the country are weighing heavily on the minds of many Americans.

Three-quarters of adults reported they are more stressed about the country’s future than they used to be. This heightened anxiety reflects a deeper, more persistent unease about the nation’s trajectory.

Read the full report: https://at.apa.org/477915

11/07/2025

To build a secure relationship, it’s important for all partners to feel emotionally safe to share their inner world.

Source: The term “inner world” is something I first heard from The Gottman Institute.

Disclaimer: Content is for educational purposes and doesn’t constitute therapy. Posts are generalized and may not fit all individuals or situations. My posts don’t speak to situations of abuse, active addiction, or certain mental health conditions.

11/05/2025

In a world where we’re constantly pulled to multi-task, where focus has become difficult, where things seem to move at such a quick pace, slowing down and paying attention to the people we love the most is such a wildly powerful act.

Disclaimer: Content is for educational purposes and doesn’t constitute therapy. Posts are generalized and may not fit all individuals or situations. My posts don’t speak to situations of abuse, active addiction, or certain mental health conditions.

11/04/2025

Relationship therapy can still be considered successful even if it leads to a breakup or divorce. The goal of therapy isn’t always to stay together, but to help individuals and partners gain clarity, improve relational skills, and understand their relationship dynamic.

Sometimes, through therapy, people realize that separation might be the healthiest option for all parties. In these cases, the therapy has done its job in supporting partners to make informed decisions. Ultimately, success in therapy is about growth, understanding, and making choices that lead to greater health.

Disclaimer: Content is for educational purposes and doesn’t constitute therapy. Posts are generalized and may not fit all individuals or situations. My posts don’t speak to situations of abuse, active addiction, or certain mental health conditions.

11/03/2025

… I mean, I know why. Unethical therapist storylines are much more entertaining. But let’s be clear, this is a huge violation of the therapist-client relationship. If you know something like this is happening with a licensed professional, it should be reported to the state board.

Also important to note: I love this show. 🫶

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11/03/2025

Highly recommend the book Self-Compassion by Dr. Kristin Neff.

When we meet our imperfections with kindness instead of judgment, we create the space to grow, learn, and heal. Self-compassion reminds us that we don’t need to be flawless to be worthy of love.

How do you practice being gentle with yourself when you make mistakes?

11/03/2025

We see this pattern all the time as relationship therapists. So often, clients tell us they wish they had come in sooner.

To locate a qualified relationship therapist, you can check out:

www.iceeft.com for an Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist.

www.gottman.com for a Gottman Method Couples Therapist.

www.pactinstitute.com for a Psychobiological Approach Couples Therapist.

Disclaimer: Content is for educational purposes and doesn’t constitute therapy. Posts are generalized and may not fit all individuals or situations. My posts don’t speak to situations of abuse, active addiction, or certain mental health conditions.

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11/03/2025

A secure bond (referring to adult attachment bonds here) is based on the experience of being there for each other. It’s knowing that your partner(s) overall sees you, hears you, and cares about you.

To learn more about creating secure relationships, I recommend reading the book Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson.

Disclaimer: Content is for educational purposes and doesn’t constitute therapy. Posts are generalized and may not fit all individuals or situations. My posts don’t speak to situations of abuse, active addiction, or certain mental health conditions.