MOV Red Tent

01/27/2026

01/23/2026

"The painful truth about motherhood in a patriarchy is this: Motherhood is mandatory, and no matter how hard you try, someone will still think you’re doing it wrong. Fatherhood is always optional.

Being a mother is a radically different experience from being a father. Almost all fathers can slack off, confident in the knowledge that someone else will do the work for them. And almost all mothers know that no one will even notice or care how much work they’re doing—let alone acknowledge how intellectually and emotionally challenging it is. For dads, parenting is a less conflicted experience. When they show up, they can enjoy it more. And when they don’t, they experience far fewer consequences than mothers.

Men who aspire to more equity should consider how their privilege shows up in their parenting—and how this parenting models extremely unhealthy relationships to the next generation.

Mothers may find that considering this list helps them understand why it all feels so unmanageable.

Perhaps most importantly, if a man denigrates the incredible work women do, as outlined on this list, or if he thinks that a few tasks here and there or a paycheck cancel all this work out, it’s important to know that he’s unfixable and unf**kable.

I hope folks reading this will consider the fact that privilege is different from oppression. Even feminist men enjoy significant male privilege, including as fathers. In my own marriage, my husband and I equitably split parenting, but he still gets all the praise. While you can give up some privilege (the privilege to get away with not doing your kids’ laundry, for example), some privileges persist no matter what you do. Reflecting on these privileged, on the way patriarchy gives you extra goodies even if you don’t want them and actively avoid them, can help men become better allies with a more astute understanding of the role of patriarchy in their lives. "

https://zawn.substack.com/p/the-dad-privilege-checklist-49b

01/07/2026

France has redefined r*pe in its criminal code to make lack of consent the central element, rather than just force or threats.

The change follows the high-profile Gisèle Pelicot case, where the legal gaps around consent sparked national outrage.

12/26/2025

12/13/2025

For the first time in history, women aren’t marrying men for survival, status, or financial security. We can earn our own money, pay our own bills, build our own lives. Marriage is no longer a necessity — it’s a choice. And that changes everything.

Now men are being evaluated on character, emotional intelligence, integrity, consistency, and how safe they feel to a woman’s nervous system. Not what they provide materially, but how they show up personally. How they communicate. How they handle conflict. Whether their words align with their actions. Whether they add peace instead of chaos.

And that’s exactly why so many women are single.

Because when the bar shifts from “Can he provide?” to “Can he be trusted, respected, and emotionally mature?” a lot of options quietly disappear. Many men were raised to be providers, not partners. To earn money, not self-awareness. To chase success, not accountability.

So women choose solitude over settling. Peace over potential. Stability over inconsistency. We’d rather be alone than tied to someone who drains us emotionally, minimizes us, or requires us to shrink ourselves just to keep the relationship intact.

Being single isn’t a failure anymore — it’s discernment.
It’s proof that love is no longer about survival, but standards.
And until character catches up with independence, many women will continue to walk alone — not lonely, just unwilling to compromise their peace.
“Andy Burg”

12/07/2025