Isabella Gatti

11/25/2025

Most couples don’t fall apart because of a lack of love — they fall apart because no one ever taught them how to return.

When fear comes online, when the nervous system tightens, when old stories take over… we lose each other in micro-moments long before the argument even starts.

The good news?
We also find our way back in micro-moments.

Reachability.
Softenings.
Tiny shifts toward safety.

📌 New on the blog this Sunday: How We Find Our Way Back

Link in bio on Sunday.

Save this for the days when reconnection feels impossible — you’re closer than it feels.

11/18/2025

When fear comes online, love doesn’t disappear — it just
stops looking like love.

In conflict, the body often moves before the words do:
tightening, shutting down, or defending to survive.

The problem isn’t that you stopped caring —
it’s that your nervous system thought it was in danger.

📝 Full blog Sunday: The Body Revolts
📌 Save this if you’ve ever felt your body go tense mid-argument.

11/12/2025

Ever wondered how a totally normal sentence turns into a full argument?
It’s not the words — it’s the way the words hit the nervous system.

Tone, timing, silence, posture… the body reads all of it before the mind catches up.

If you’ve ever felt hurt by a short reply or a “fine.” that didn’t feel fine,
this Sunday’s post is for you.

📝 Blog drops Sunday: The Email Was One Word. The Argument Was Not.
📌 Save this to follow the Repair Series.

11/09/2025

You don’t need yelling to feel disrespected.�Sometimes the eyes say, “I’m done with you,”�long before the mouth does.

Silence has a tone.�Distance has a posture.�A flat face can hit harder than a harsh word.

Most couples think they’re arguing about what was said.�They’re actually reacting to:�• the shift in expression�• the sigh�• the pause before the reply�• the moment someone stops trying

Words are only 7% of communication.�The body delivers the rest.

If your arguments “come out of nowhere,”�you’re not missing the words —�you’re missing the signals underneath them.

📌 Save this if you’ve lived this dynamic.�📝 Next Sunday: “The Email Was One Word. The Argument Was Not.”

11/05/2025

There’s a moment in repair where everything shifts — not because someone “wins,” but because someone lets go of being right long enough to feel the ache underneath.

That’s the doorway to repair.

It isn’t weakness. It isn’t giving in.
It’s the bravest part of love — the part that says,
“I still want us, even though this hurts.”

Most couples don’t fall apart because they stop loving each other — they fall apart because they stop knowing how to reach for each other.

If you’re in that space — together but disconnected — this series is for you.
Full post coming later this week.

💬 Feel free to comment if this lands for you, or if you want to see more.

10/21/2025

The Trust Repair Map: How Couples Rebuild After Betrayal

Trust doesn’t break cleanly — it unravels quietly, thread by thread.

And in that unraveling, the silence that follows can feel unbearable.

But trust can be rewoven.

This post explores how couples begin that repair — not by erasing what happened, but by learning how to meet it together.
Read the full piece here:

👉 https://www.therapywithisabella.com/from-the-journal/trust-repair-map

Couples therapist specializing in repair after distance or betrayal. Online only across California. EFT, Gottman, RLT, EMDR, IFS. Private pay.

10/19/2025

🕊️ Love in Practice�is now live — a new home within my website devoted to the small, ongoing work of loving better.

It began from the same questions I explore with clients every day:
�How do we turn toward each other when it feels easier to turn away?�What helps love deepen, not just last?

The blog looks at the practice of connection — what it takes to repair, rebuild, and stay open through the harder moments.

If you’re curious about Emotionally Focused Therapy, relationship repair, or the quiet work of understanding, I’d love for you to visit.

Every moment is a chance to love better.�[link in bio]

🕊️

06/25/2025

It’s not about the dishes.
It’s about feeling ignored.
It’s about asking for help and being met with silence.
It’s about needing to know you matter—and not getting that answer.

Arguments over the little things are rarely about the little things.

They’re protests from the heart.

In Emotionally Focused Therapy, we help couples listen for the emotion underneath—not just the behavior on the surface.

✨ Ready to reconnect?

Book a free 15-minute consultation at therapywithisabella.com

06/23/2025

If no one ever held space for your feelings, you might not know what it’s like to be supported emotionally.

Therapy isn’t weakness—it’s where strength finally gets to rest.

✨ Start with a free 15-min consult at therapywithisabella.com