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12/21/2025

The Quiet Power of Christmas:

My mentor and dear friend will be in surgery later today.

Some of my other friends are waiting on diagnoses.

I see my kids every other week.

I’m closing a chapter on a friendship that’s no longer aligned with my direction.

Heavy stuff...

And then there’s the news—Charlie Kirk, Rob Reiner, murders, affairs, division, misinformation, miscommunication… insanity.

Yet it’s Christmas.

And I wanted to share a perspective that may help—not to lose hope (maybe I’m projecting a bit :), but to actually help things become better.

Christmas—and all the holidays in this season of light—are about hope, innocence, miracles, and love.

That may sound childish, weak, or naïve when we’re facing real problems in our lives and in the world.

I understand that reaction.

But it’s often the simple and beautiful things that get dismissed precisely because of their power.

Don’t let that happen.

There is hope—and Christmas helps us remember it.

I once heard the story of soldiers during World War I who, on Christmas, laid down their weapons. They shared food, sang together, and even played games. For a brief moment, they put their differences aside and chose connection.

That’s Christmas.

Today, our challenges look different.

Read more here:

With so much happening in the world and our lives that are really hard, Christmas offers hope love peace and joy. Read about how such a gentle perspective that seems to offer little is the very answer to everything.

12/14/2025

When Christmas Was Winter
It was Christmas, and I was coming off what felt like the best year of my young, eight-year-old life.



My sister and I had been brought to the United States to live with my mom and stepdad, in the first home I would ever call my own.



The beatings from my grandmother had stopped.



The ache of being separated from my mom was finally gone.



We were together — my sister, my half-brothers — a family.



The year before, Christmas had been beautiful.



Then came this Christmas morning.



The house was dark.



Cold.



And my parents weren’t coming out of their bedroom.



We waited. 7am, 8am, ..10..finally 11 am.



No presents — but that wasn’t what hurt most. I had grown up without birthdays and Christmas gifts. I didn’t expect them.



What hurt me wasn't the lack of presents but the absence of my parent's presence


The confusion.



Not knowing what was going on.



Later, I learned the truth.



My parents owned a small store in North Philadelphia — a rough area.



It kept getting broken into.



The most recent time, thieves climbed onto the roof and came in through the ceiling.



My stepfather already kept two guns under the counter.



They were overwhelmed and afraid.



They had to close the store.



That store was our lifeline — it had paid for the house, brought us together as a family, and made the Christmas before possible.



Without it, they were suddenly in serious financial trouble.



Neither of them had much education.



The future was uncertain.



What hurt me most wasn’t the lack of money.



It was that no one told us.



I was young, but I wanted us to face it together.



I wanted honesty. Connection. A sense that even if things were hard, we were still a family.



That didn’t happen — and it left a mark.



So why do I share this story as we approach Christmas?

My family had a pretty hard christmas when my parents needed to close a store that was their only source of income. The hard part wasn't not having presents but not having my parents presence,

12/07/2025

A Grown-Up Example of Family Almost Laughed Away

It was only the second time she was meeting her now husband’s family.


At the first dinner, she sat almost speechless—watching as they asked about each other’s day, listened attentively, and spoke with kindness.

It was nothing like the family dynamic she grew up in, where the quickest way to be noticed was to make fun of someone, and the smallest show of vulnerability became a target for ridicule.


A few months later, something happened again at her husband’s family’s house


His 13-year-old niece had been taking voice lessons and was excited—nervous, but excited—to perform for everyone.


The young girl opened her mouth to sing… and the notes were wildly off-key.



My friend told me she almost burst out laughing while everyone else seemed to not notice.



They listened attentively.



She had to physically restrain herself for the entire performance from laughing and kept catching looks from her husband.



Because in her family, this never would have happened.



No one would have dared to sing—even if they were good.



And if someone did sing off-key? They’d be roasted for years.



In her family, vulnerability wasn’t safe.



Trying something new, being imperfect, or needing encouragement was an invitation for attack—not support.



But after the moment passed—and after she recovered from her own instinctive reaction—she told me what that experience taught her.



She said:

What happens when you are raised in a

12/05/2025

How do I live today so that 25 years from now I won’t regret my choices?

11/30/2025

He had an affair.



And came to me for coaching.



He wanted to repair his marriage.



And they hadn’t been intimate for years.



This is never an easy place to start.



When someone has had an affair and wants to rebuild, the road ahead is not simple.



It requires honesty—real honesty.



It requires hearing your partner’s pain without defending yourself.



It requires answering hard questions.



It requires self-reflection, responsibility, and creating brand-new patterns of relating.



It’s possible.



And when a couple commits to the work, not only can the relationship be repaired—it can become stronger than before.



My client is a perfect example of the power of listening.



He asked his wife to set aside time to talk.



Not to argue.

Not to fix anything.

Just to talk.



And when she talked, he listened.



He didn’t interrupt.

He didn’t correct her.

He didn’t defend himself.

He simply listened with his whole heart.



Every so often he paused to reflect back what he heard, just to make sure he understood.



He kept listening until she was fully, completely done.



Only then did he share what he needed to say.



And something incredible happened:

Live An Excellent Life

11/24/2025

Every day can be a thanksgiving.
❤️

11/21/2025

Happy Thanksgiving!

What if you woke up tomorrow and only had what you were grateful for yesterday. Gratitude is the most powerful habit a human being can have and yet it is so easily overlooked. Read this and remember why it is important.

11/20/2025

This is my friend Hamilton. He’s here from Malawi, Africa, raising funds to complete a boys’ orphanage he is building. He needs $35,000 to finish the project and came to the U.S. to share his story and seek support.

Unfortunately, because of immigration laws, his visa was restricted to 30 days—a detail he didn’t know until he arrived. Hamilton now has to return home in a few days, far sooner than planned, without the time he hoped for to raise what he needs.

Many of you know that my daughter Maya and I traveled to Malawi to visit Hamilton and his ministry firsthand. His organization, Life Coaching Ministries, is truly extraordinary.

Hamilton’s story is powerful. His father left when he was born. Later, both his mother and grandmother passed away, leaving him alone on the streets of Malawi. Urban Promise eventually found him, gave him a chance, and he thrived. After completing his education, Hamilton chose to return home—not to escape his childhood, but to serve children who now face the same hardships he once did.

What he has built is incredible. He strives to make his ministry self-sustaining by planting crops and even recently built a medical center that now helps support the surrounding community. His vision is not just compassion—it’s empowerment.

When I asked Hamilton how many boys the new orphanage will house, he said 20.
I then asked what will happen to these boys once they’re in his care. He told me they would go to school, receive love, grow up in a family environment, graduate high school, and hopefully attend college.

And when I asked what might happen if these boys stay on the streets, he paused and said quietly:
“They will likely fall into crime, drugs… and many of them will die.”

If Hamilton’s work touches your heart the way it touched mine, please consider contributing to this boys’ ministry. Your support will change—and quite literally save—lives.

You can give here

https://urbanpromiseinternational.org/donations/life-coaching-ministries/

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

Much love and appreciation,
Bert

11/16/2025

Relationships, Marriage and what that has to do with your Health.

Did you know that a good relationship can increase your life expectancy and a bad one can lower it. Here you will learn not only what the problems are with today's relationships but find answers of what you can do to understand how to have great ones.

11/14/2025

What does relationships and marriage have to do with your health? How can we have great relationships?

My coaching group is next week on Tuesday from 8 PM to 9:15 PM via Zoom

Private message me if you’d like to join

Or my coaching group for the new year. We will meet two times a month for the year. Come out if you’d like to be in really good health in all areas of your life. Private message me if you’d like to join and we can have a call about it.

Have a great day !

11/11/2025

Wow, a new day!
Thank you!