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01/22/2026

Healing isn’t a straight line. It’s a slinky.
We learn, practice, slip back, return—and still grow upward.
The COPER™ Model teaches that healing isn’t just about stopping what hurts…
it’s learning what “healthy” actually looks like and returning to it again and again.
If you’ve been in grief, burnout, chronic stress, disordered eating patterns, or just life,
this is your reminder:
Setbacks aren’t failure.
They’re part of the climb. 💛
What would “healthy” look like today—small and honest?

01/21/2026

THE MOST DANGEROUS SENTENCE IN MY HEAD THIS YEAR:
“I should know better.”
I’m a therapist.
I teach wellness.
I help people rebuild their relationship with food, body, and self.
…and still, this year, my body felt like it was swimming through peanut butter.
Foggy. Heavy. Inflamed. Exhausted. Unkown illness.
And the narrator in my mind kept whispering:
You should know better.
But here’s what I know now:
That sentence sounds like responsibility…
but it functions like shame.
And shame doesn’t heal anyone.
It shuts the system down.
If you’ve struggled with perfectionism, disordered eating, chronic “pushing through,” or being the strong one—this matters:
So many coping strategies begin as survival.
Not vanity.
Not weakness.
Protection.
✨ A replacement sentence I’m practicing:
“I’m noticing I’m struggling… and that means I need support.”
Not more discipline.
Support.
I shared more of this story + the clinical lens behind it on Substack today.
🔗https://open.substack.com/pub/sheridamon/p/the-most-dangerous-sentence-in-my?r=22o18a&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

01/20/2026

YOUR MIND ISN’T TELLING THE TRUTH—IT’S TELLING A STORY.
When life gets hard, your nervous system overloads…
and then your mind picks up a microphone.
Not to help you.
To narrate you.
To explain the inexplicable.
To make chaos feel manageable by turning it into a story.
And sometimes the story hurts.
“I should know better.”
“This will never change.”
“I’m failing.”
“If I could just control my body, I’d feel safe.”
But here’s the thing (therapist + human truth):
the mind is a meaning-making machine.
When it can’t find certainty, it will reach for familiarity—even if that familiarity is self-judgment. I call this “error-messaging”
✨ A tiny practice for today:
Next time a painful thought shows up, try this:
“This is a story my brain is telling in stress.”
Not a fact.
Not a diagnosis.
A story. I can rewrite this story.
And then ask:
“What might also be true?”
I wrote more about this in today’s Substack post (a small preview from my book-in-progress: Beginning Again: A Therapist’s Field Guide to Healing—With Stories, Science, and Meditations).
🔗 Read it here: https://open.substack.com/pub/sheridamon/p/your-mind-isnt-telling-the-truthits?r=22o18a&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

01/19/2026

Some nights this year, I felt like I was screaming into the void.
Not out loud—just inside.
And then… lightning bugs showed up.
Tiny flickers in the dark that reminded me of something I needed to remember:
✨ You can’t chase the light.
You have to get still long enough to see it.
Healing isn’t always powering through.
Sometimes it’s standing still… and letting the next small light appear.
If today feels heavy, try this:
Take one breath.
Look around.
And ask yourself gently:
What do I feel right now?
No fixing. No judgment.
Just noticing.
🦋 More soon.
# flihhcopermodel
Read more on my substack
https://open.substack.com/pub/sheridamon/p/the-night-i-stopped-chasing-the-light?r=22o18a&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

01/16/2026

A cactus doesn’t grow spines because it’s “too much.”
It grows them because it learned how to survive.
And honestly… so many of us have done the same.
I want to say this clearly, especially if you’ve been struggling with your body, food, weight, inflammation, exhaustion, grief, or the feeling that your system has changed overnight:
Sometimes the body changes the rules.
Not because you failed.
Not because you weren’t disciplined enough.
Not because you didn’t try hard enough.
Sometimes stress and grief shift your sleep, blood sugar, appetite, hormones, and energy.
Sometimes midlife turns the volume up even louder.
Sometimes your body becomes protective in ways you didn’t ask for—
because it has lived through something.
And when life feels uncertain, it makes perfect sense that we reach for something—anything—that feels manageable.
For some people, that shows up as over-doing.
For others, perfectionism.
For many, a complicated relationship with food and control.
Not vanity—adaptation.
But here’s what I’m learning (and re-learning) in my own healing:
🌸 Protection doesn’t cancel beauty.
🌸 Survival doesn’t mean you’re broken.
🌸 Spines can soften—without losing strength.
If your body is in a protective season, I hope you can meet it with compassion—not punishment.
And if you don’t know what to do next, try one small question:
What do I need today?
More on this (and a preview from the book I’m writing) is up on my Substack:
📌https://sheridamon.substack.com/?utm_campaign=pub&utm_medium=webhttps://open.substack.com/pub/sheridamon/p/when-the-body-changes-the-rules?r=22o18a&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

01/13/2026

Some mornings begin with light and energy.
Others begin with rain, heaviness, and a longing to crawl back into bed.
Both are part of being human.
This past year has taught me that healing doesn’t start with fixing—it starts with noticing.
Noticing how I feel.
Noticing what I need.
Noticing when compassion matters more than discipline.
I’m writing my way through this—grief, health, self-care, and all the in-between.
One gray day at a time.
If you’re here too, you’re not alone. Come read more on substack as I continue to pull together material for my book.
https://sheri479.substack.com/p/the-therapist-who-didnt-feel-well?r=22o18a

❤️

01/09/2026

So… I have decided this therapist and wellness teacher needs to engage in her own self care and wellness! Practice what you preach. I’ll be writing in substack, posting here and sharing the what and why. But I decided to kick of my 3 week mini-sabbatical with a little indulgence- a beach resort pass ( is awesome), some relaxation and fun. The healing begins!

12/17/2025

This holiday season celebrate the people who share kindness, talent and care for others! THANK YOU to all FLIHH providers, therapeutic farm workers and admin staff for all you do to care for people, animals and environment. We had great fun at our holiday party and look forward to building more ways to help all in 2026!

12/14/2025

Join us THIS WENDESDAY 12/17 for a virtual panel to discuss eating disorder recovery. Register through the link in bio - tickets are free and donations are welcome

11/24/2025

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10/23/2025

We help people learn mind-body-spirit-environment health and healing strategies but we need your help! We provide equity priced eating disorder and mental health scholarships BUT costs of everything have risen. Won’t you please become a donor or a sponsor? We are a 501c3 nonprofit so it’s tax deductible so you win and we win. https://gofund.me/52edba9d

10/06/2025

✨ Help Healing Take Flight at The Butterflihh Farm Fund ✨🐴
At Butterflihh Farm Fund, we believe healing happens in connection — with nature, with animals, and with each other. 💚
Your donation supports:
🌾 Our holistic farm — a sanctuary where rescued animals find safety, love, and purpose.
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💫 Equity-based wellness pricing — helping every individual experience care, regardless of circumstance.
Every dollar you give helps nurture both hearts and hooves. 🐐💞
Join us in creating a world where compassion and healing grow side by side. 🌻
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