02/25/2026
Many people who experience emotional neglect in childhood may minimize how profoundly impactful it can be. The painful irony in this is that minimizing one’s own needs and feelings is exactly the symptom of this experience, and so many individuals suffer because they don’t see themselves as trauma survivors. Yet, emotional neglect causes toxic shame, difficulty in relationships and emotional disconnection or dysregulation because we learn to attend to our internal world through attunement with a caregiver. These experiences are essential to our emotional development, not a luxury. Every human needs to be seen & heard as a basic fundamental need. When this doesn’t occur, children blame themselves & cut off their needs in the body & heart….before words exist to even express it.
Emotional neglect in childhood can occur when any of the following are present:
1) Abuse or physical neglect (lack of food, housing insecurity)
2) Caregivers who have physical or mental health problems
3) Financial insecurities
4) Caregivers with addiction to substances, gambling, s*x addiction, screens, etc
5) Caregivers who demonstrate narcissistic tendencies or have Narcissistic Personality Disorder
6) Siblings with developmental issues or health problems that are the focus of more parental attention
7) Sudden loss that impacts a family system
8)Caregivers chronically overwhelmed for any reason
9) Cultural, racial & systemic trauma impacting a family
10) Caregivers with unresolved trauma, including intergenerational trauma
If this resonates with you, please know healing is possible. In my experience, and based on what the research confirms, is that healing is a process that requires several components.
* Reprocessing these experiences in the brain & body through evidence based treatment like EMDR (there are ways to access early experiences that are not attached to memory because the body does remember & holds the story)
* Somatic repatterning on how these experiences manifest in the body
* Having the felt experience of what you needed in the way you needed to receive it through imaginal repair & body based techniques
* New skills that lead to behavior you didn’t get to learn
To learn more and/or schedule a free 20 minute phone consultation, go to my website site www.embodiedhealingli.com.
Sending peace,
Annmarie Hardgrove, LCSW-R, CYT
Certified EMDR Therpist
Trauma Focused Yoga & Meditation Teacher
www.embodiedhealingli.com
PS- This video may be both deeply validating as well as emotionally painful and triggering. Use self care when watching. ❤️❤️❤️
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