Michael Noll Counseling, LLC

Michael Noll Counseling, LLC Helping people connect with themselves and others to live and thrive in this mixed up world.

Struggling with stress, anxiety, depression, relationship issues, sexual abuse, physical abuse, grief and loss, career goals or other mental health concerns? We will meet you where you are, not where we are; this is our philosophy as therapist's. "We almost always have choices, and the better the choice, the more we will be in control of our lives." (William Glasser)

Come as you and leave a little closer to where you can be.

Self-esteem lives in the middle.⚖️ Shame: "I'm beneath everyone."⚖️ Pride (self-defeating): "I'm better than everyone."⚖...
03/18/2026

Self-esteem lives in the middle.

⚖️ Shame: "I'm beneath everyone."

⚖️ Pride (self-defeating): "I'm better than everyone."

⚖️ Healthy Self-Esteem: "I'm worthy. So are you."

Which way do you lean today?


Self-Esteem = Realistic + 'Appreciative opinion of yourself'🔍 Realistic = honest, accurate❤️ Appreciative = positive fee...
03/17/2026

Self-Esteem = Realistic + 'Appreciative opinion of yourself'

🔍 Realistic = honest, accurate

❤️ Appreciative = positive feelings, liking who you are

It's Not arrogant or with shame. Just... truth.

How's your opinion of YOU today?

This week we're focusing on Self-Esteem. One question to sit with today:👁️ "When I look into my eyes in the mirror, do I...
03/16/2026

This week we're focusing on Self-Esteem. One question to sit with today:

👁️ "When I look into my eyes in the mirror, do I feel okay? Pleasant? Worthy?"

No judgment. Just honest. Where are YOU at today?

The "My Partner is Hurt" vs. "I Hurt My Partner" ReflectionThis is the most powerful shift of all.✨ The Mission: Take 10...
03/15/2026

The "My Partner is Hurt" vs. "I Hurt My Partner" Reflection

This is the most powerful shift of all.

✨ The Mission: Take 10 minutes for quiet reflection. Think about a moment this week where there was a misunderstanding or conflict. Ask yourself honestly: Was I focused on proving that "my partner/friend/colleague is hurt" (which keeps the focus on them and the problem), or did I truly sit with the feeling that "I hurt my partner" (which takes responsibility for my impact)?
🙌🏻 The Win: This is the heart of accountability. It moves you from defending your intention ("I didn't mean it that way!") to understanding your impact ("I see that what I did caused you pain").

💯 This single shift in thinking is the foundation of every truly healthy relationship.

The Feedback Sandwich (Light Version)Practice giving honest, kind feedback in a low-stakes environment.✨The Mission: Giv...
03/14/2026

The Feedback Sandwich (Light Version)

Practice giving honest, kind feedback in a low-stakes environment.

✨The Mission: Give someone a genuine, specific compliment. Then, if appropriate, offer a small piece of constructive feedback, wrapped in another positive.
💫 Scenario Example: "I loved that you took the initiative to clean the kitchen today (positive). I feel a little stressed when the sponges are left in the sink (feedback/feeling), because they don't dry out. And, I really appreciate you helping out (positive)."
🙌🏻 The Win: You practice the art of giving feedback that isn't just criticism. You show you see the whole person, not just their faults.

The Voice Message ExperimentLet's use technology to our advantage.✨ The Mission: Instead of sending a tricky text or ema...
03/13/2026

The Voice Message Experiment

Let's use technology to our advantage.

✨ The Mission: Instead of sending a tricky text or email (which can be easily misinterpreted), record a short voice message. This is for something that needs a tone of voice to land correctly—an apology, a vulnerable feeling, or a complex thought.
💫 Scenario Example: You need to tell a friend you were hurt by a joke they made. A text could sound angry. A voice message lets them hear your genuine, calm tone.
🙌🏻 The Win: They hear you. You both get time to process before responding. It’s a bridge between the instant, often regrettable text and the high-pressure face-to-face talk.

03/13/2026

A Moment of Mindfulness With Michael

Connect With the Body (The Insula)

The 5-Minute Rule (Tackling the Tough Stuff)Let's make the "S'more Fixes" real:✨ The Mission: If there's conflict brewin...
03/12/2026

The 5-Minute Rule (Tackling the Tough Stuff)

Let's make the "S'more Fixes" real:

✨ The Mission: If there's conflict brewing, propose the "5-Minute Rule." "Hey, I'd really like to talk about the household chores. I know it's a lot, so can we just talk about it for five minutes tonight and then stop, no matter what?"

💫 Scenario Example: A recurring argument with a partner or roommate.
👉🏻 Try This: Set a timer. Talk for five minutes. When the timer goes off, you stop. You can pick it up again tomorrow.
🙌🏻 The Win: This removes the terror of the "relationship-ending conversation." It builds trust. It shows that the goal is to understand, not to win. It's a massive step toward tackling deep-rooted problems together.

WEDNESDAY: The Deep Breath & The PauseThis is about catching ourselves before we fall into old, aggressive patterns. ✨ ...
03/11/2026

WEDNESDAY: The Deep Breath & The Pause

This is about catching ourselves before we fall into old, aggressive patterns.

✨ The Mission: When you feel that flash of anger or frustration (the urge to use a "you" statement), physically pause. Take one deep breath before responding. That's it. Just one breath.
💫 Scenario Example: Someone cuts you off in traffic or interrupts you in a conversation. Before you react, pause and breathe.
🙌🏻 The Win: That single breath interrupts the autopilot response of blame. It gives your brain a millisecond to choose a response, rather than just reacting. You regain control.

Today, we put a stake in the ground for the Gold Standard.‼️ The Mission: Consciously use one "I statement" in a real co...
03/10/2026

Today, we put a stake in the ground for the Gold Standard.

‼️ The Mission: Consciously use one "I statement" in a real conversation. Use the formula: "I feel [emotion] when [event] happens, because [effect on me]."
✨ Scenario Example: Instead of: "You're so loud! I'm trying to work!"
💫 Try This: "I feel frustrated when there are loud noises while I'm working, because it breaks my concentration and makes it hard to meet my deadline."

🙌🏻 The Win: You take ownership of your feeling and explain the "why." You're not blaming; you're informing. This opens a door for collaboration instead of defensiveness.

👁️ Today, I'm just watching. No judgment. No reacting. Just noticing the communication styles happening around me. You l...
03/09/2026

👁️ Today, I'm just watching. No judgment. No reacting. Just noticing the communication styles happening around me. You learn so much when you stop performing and start observing.

📸 Image Suggestion:

· A person sitting slightly apart from a group, quietly watching with a thoughtful expression
· OR: A pair of binoculars focused on a conversation bubble
· OR: A simple graphic with the four communication styles (Passive, Aggressive, Passive-Aggressive, Assertive) as icons

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This week, we covered BASICS.We talked about encoding, decoding, choosing our words, checking our assumptions.Next we...
03/08/2026

This week, we covered BASICS.
We talked about encoding, decoding, choosing our words, checking our assumptions.

Next week?
We LEVEL UP. 🚀

🔹 Communication STYLES — Are you passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, or assertive?
🔹 Conflict RESOLUTION — Because avoiding hard conversations doesn't make them go away.

There's a quiz on the website to take ahead of time. Come prepared. Let's grow. 🌱

See you next week fam!


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1477 Kenwood Drive, Suite 200
Menasha, WI
54952

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