03/28/2026
Strength and stress go hand in hand. Either synergistically or combatively.
Moments of stress, trauma or pain creates an opportunity for us. In that moment we either have the tools, support and safety to move through it or we adapt in the most appropriate way our system has been trained how. Sometimes we merely shelf it for a later date.
The unchecked stress builds cumulatively until that later date arrives. Or…. That date may never comes if we don’t have the safety to process it. If that’s the case, our “adaptive strength” begins to silence us. Quieting the intuitive and innate wisdom that runs through us.
That disconnection or misguided awareness from faulty stress response can lead to plethora of consequences from anxiety, chronic pain, doubt, fear, repeated patterns, addictions, self rejection, lack of support and more.
Stress left unchecked creates an environment we no longer feel safe in our bodies. Even situations when our bodies themselves, begin to attack itself. ( Auto Immune)
The accumulated stress can cultivate ‘armor’ that not only keeps others out, but keeps us from getting in. When I use the words soften into the body, this armor hears, “hold my beer.” Only furthering us as often, our metal programming sees softening as ‘weak,’ continuing the same patterns. So instead of soften, I say listen.
We listen and lean into the spaces where our systems get challenged and instead of dismissing, we give the gift of presence. That presence unravels the tension at the root and creates space. That space is what allows our capacity to widen and growth to expand.
