12/19/2025
▫️Sensory meltdowns are an inability to cope.
Meltdowns occur when the nervous system becomes overloaded by things like too much noise, bright or flashing lights, crowds, unpredictability, transitions that feel too fast or too big, and certain smells, textures or clothing.
During a meltdown, your child’s brain is in a stress response. They are trying to survive an experience that feels too overwhelming for them. You may see crying/screaming, eloping or hiding, covering ears/eyes, aggression toward themselves or others, dropping to the floor, shutting down or going quiet.
Meltdowns need support, safety, and compassion, not consequences.
You can support your child during a meltdown by moving them to a quiet space,
reducing their overall sensory input, having a calm presence, providing comfort items, deep pressure, and patience.
▫️Tantrums are goal driven.
A tantrum usually has a desired outcome like wanting a toy, a piece of candy, or getting upset after being told “no.” Your child is frustrated, and tantrums are their way of communicating what they want.
During a tantrum, a child will try to push boundaries in an attempt to change the outcome. In a true tantrum, a child will likely calm quickly if given the thing they wanted.
Tantrums respond to firm and consistent boundaries, giving choices, providing validation and staying calm.
Although the techniques to support your child might look different depending on if they are experiencing a meltdown or tantrum, the goal is always to validate your child's feelings and coregulate with them.
If you would like more support in understanding your child's sensory needs, more information on how to apply these techniques in real life, our therapists are here to help. Reach out to speak to a member of our team!
