The Power of Pleasure

The Power of Pleasure Xanet Pailet is the author of Living an Or****ic Life, now available for pre-order at https://amzn.t Has your s*x life become routine and boring?

Are you looking for ways to deepen your passion and intimacy? Are you getting what you want from your relationship? Do you feel comfortable expressing your true s*xual self? The Power of Pleasure offers a unique approach to s*x and intimacy coaching that is more powerful and effective than traditional relationship talk therapy. Using a somatic based embodied approach, we will help you become empowered around your s*xuality and be able to understand and express your needs and desires. You will learn new skills to become a better and more confident lover, increase your s*xual energy, and create more intimate and juicy relationships. We take an experiential approach to s*x and intimacy coaching enabling you to practice new skills and receive immediate feedback. While at all times we maintain a high level of professionalism, our sessions our often filled with fun and laughter as we explore new experiences, deepen connection, and examine our edges.

The Menopause Update Every Woman Deserves to KnowA major shift just happened in women’s health — and shockingly, most pe...
11/19/2025

The Menopause Update Every Woman Deserves to Know

A major shift just happened in women’s health — and shockingly, most people haven’t heard a word about it.

The FDA has officially removed the black-box warning from Hormone Replacement Therapy.
For more than 20 years, that warning shaped how doctors counseled women, despite the fact that the original study it was based on (WHI, early 2000s) was deeply flawed.

Most women in the study were in their 60s–70s, long past menopause…
They were given outdated forms of hormones…
And the study didn’t differentiate between starting HRT early vs. decades later.

Updated research now shows a more nuanced — and empowering — picture.
For many women, HRT may support bone density, brain health, sleep, mood, and s*xual wellbeing.

And here’s another revelation:
A new study by Justin Lehmiller shows that ma********on may ease menopause symptoms.
Women reported improvements in sleep, mood, and overall comfort simply through self-pleasure.

Imagine a healthcare system that acknowledged or**sm, pleasure, and pelvic blood flow as part of menopause care.

Women are not “drying up.”
We’re evolving — and our bodies deserve science-based care, not fear-based messaging.

🔗 I’ll place a helpful link in the comments for those wanting support around libido, desire, and s*xuality during menopause.

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11/18/2025

Is Ma********on Hurting Your Relationship… or Helping It?

Here’s a truth many couples struggle to talk about openly:
Ma********on is NOT a threat to your relationship.

I hear so many fears in my coaching sessions:
“Am I not enough?”
“Shouldn’t this stop after marriage?”
“If they watch p**n, is it cheating?”

But the research actually tells a very different story.

A 2024 study in the Journal of S*x & Marital Therapy found that couples who both ma******te AND talk about it openly have:
✔ Higher secsual satisfaction
✔ Better communication
✔ Lower infidelity
✔ Stronger erotic connection

Why?
Because solo pleasure isn’t a replacement for intimacy—it’s a resource for it.

✨ For women, self-pleasure is a reconnection to their body’s wisdom and desire.
✨ For men, it’s often the only moment free from performance pressure.
✨ For couples, it reduces secrecy and creates safety.

The real issue isn't ma********on.
It’s the silence, shame, and misunderstanding surrounding it.

Try starting with questions like:
“What did you learn about self-pleasure growing up?”
“How can this be something we talk about rather than hide?”

If this topic feels tender or difficult, know that you’re not alone—and you don’t have to navigate it blindly. My Couples Intimacy Retreats are designed to help couples rebuild trust, desire, and communication in a safe, guided container.

Pleasure doesn’t divide you. It connects you.

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11/15/2025

There are so many couples who stay together… but slowly stop being lovers.
Not because they don’t care, but because communication breaks down over time.

S*x problems inside the bedroom usually begin outside the bedroom — in the resentment, the unspoken hurts, the imbalance in responsibilities, the lack of repair after conflict.

When those deeper issues aren’t addressed, they eventually create emotional disconnection that makes intimacy feel distant or even impossible.

But couples can find their way back with the right tools.

If this sounds like your relationship… and you're ready to break the cycle of distance, check the retreat designed to help couples repair, reconnect, and reignite intimacy:
https://www.passionateintimacyretreats.com/private-intimacy-retreats/costa-rica/

11/12/2025

You’re not fighting about what happened.
You’re fighting about what it meant.

The real conversation isn’t about facts or perspectives — it’s the emotional layer underneath that never gets voiced.

Repair happens when you both slow down enough to ask:
💬 “What’s the conversation under the conversation?”

And when one of you can say, “I see how much that hurt you. That must have been really painful.”
That’s when true empathy — and real connection — begins.

Learn how to repair and reconnect with your partner here: Lin k in the comment below.

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What happens when intimacy fades — and how can we find our way back?I had a heartfelt conversation with Leslie Gaudet (L...
11/09/2025

What happens when intimacy fades — and how can we find our way back?

I had a heartfelt conversation with Leslie Gaudet (Leslie Gaudet) on HER Extraordinary LIFE By Design podcast about my own journey from a 26-year s*xless marriage to becoming a S*x and Intimacy Coach helping couples transform disconnection into desire.

In this episode, we dive deep into:
💫 What causes intimacy to fade
💬 The role of communication and safety
🔥 How to reignite passion and connection in long-term relationships

It’s a powerful, honest discussion for anyone who’s ever wondered if deeper intimacy is still possible (it is!).

🎧 Listen on Spotify or Apple Podcasts — links in the comments.

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I’m so excited to share this beautiful conversation I had with Jessica Koch (Jessica L. Koch Consulting ) on her Profoun...
11/08/2025

I’m so excited to share this beautiful conversation I had with Jessica Koch (Jessica L. Koch Consulting ) on her Profound Professionals podcast. 🌟

We talked about my own journey from being a NYC lawyer in a s*xless marriage to becoming a s*x and intimacy educator — and how that transformation led me to help others rediscover pleasure, connection, and love.

💫 If you’ve ever wondered how to reignite intimacy or rebuild trust and desire in your relationship, this one’s for you.

🎧 Watch the full podcast episode here — link in the comments!

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Every couple goes through these three phases of intimacy —🔥 The Spark (New Relationship Secs)💞 The Proving (Validation S...
11/07/2025

Every couple goes through these three phases of intimacy —
🔥 The Spark (New Relationship Secs)
💞 The Proving (Validation Secs)
🌙 The Union (Connection Secs)

The goal isn’t more secs — it’s more connection.
Connection Secs is where you stop performing and start truly experiencing each other — body, mind, and soul.

If you’re ready to move from obligation to connection, learn more about how I guide couples to reignite their passion and deepen their bond:
👉 https://www.passionateintimacyretreats.com/reignite-the-flame-2/

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11/06/2025

Most couples experience these 3 stages of s*x:

💥 New Relationship S*x – full of excitement and chemistry
💔 Validation S*x – trying to prove love and connection
💫 Connection S*x – slow, soulful, deeply intimate

The goal is not more s*x — it’s more connection.
That’s what I help couples rediscover at my Reignite the Flame Retreats.

Learn more 👉 https://www.passionateintimacyretreats.com/reignite-the-flame-2/

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Something new is coming… 💞This book is everything I’ve learned from helping couples who love each other but have lost th...
11/05/2025

Something new is coming… 💞

This book is everything I’ve learned from helping couples who love each other but have lost their spark — and are finally ready to find their way back to connection and intimacy.

✨ Cover and title reveal soon! ✨
And yes, there’ll be some juicy pre-order bonuses too:
🎧 The Intimacy Reset Audio Practice
💬 An invitation-only “Ask Me Anything” live session with me

I can’t wait to share it all with you. Stay tuned — the reveal is just around the corner!

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11/04/2025

🕊️ Healing What’s Been Silenced

So many of my clients—especially from older generations—carry stories of secsual trauma they’ve kept hidden for years. Shame. Silence. Survival.

But healing begins the moment we speak the truth that’s been buried. When we create safety within ourselves and with our partners, we rediscover the intimacy we’ve been longing for all along.

In my conversation on Interrupted with Laurie, I shared how couples can rebuild trust, rediscover emotional connection, and reignite passion by healing from the inside out.

Because intimacy isn’t just about secs—it’s about being seen, heard, and held.

🎧 Listen to the full episode: Reigniting Passion: How Committed Couples Can Heal
👉 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/118-reigniting-passion-how-committed-couples-can-heal/id1689907695?i=1000720759253

💫 And if you’re ready to start your own journey toward deeper connection and embodied love, explore my Intimacy Retreats for couples and women here:
👉 https://www.passionateintimacyretreats.com/

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For more than two decades, I lived what looked like the perfect life — a thriving career, a long marriage, two grown chi...
10/31/2025

For more than two decades, I lived what looked like the perfect life — a thriving career, a long marriage, two grown children — but inside, I was numb.

I had silenced my voice, my pleasure, and my truth just to keep everything together.
What began as silence became a journey of awakening.

In my recent conversation with Dr. Linda Joseph on Emerge & Empower TV, I share my story — from childhood shame to medical gaslighting, from emotional abandonment to the moment I finally reconnected with my body through somatic and embodied healing.

It’s one of the most honest and vulnerable interviews I’ve done. I hope it inspires you to remember:
✨ You are not broken.
✨ You were conditioned to disconnect.
✨ Healing begins the moment you return to yourself.

🎧 Watch or listen to the full episode here: https://www.facebook.com/watch/live/?ref=watch_permalink&v=1135440582045747

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