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Xanet Pailet is the author of Living an Or****ic Life, now available for pre-order at https://amzn.t Has your s*x life become routine and boring?

Are you looking for ways to deepen your passion and intimacy? Are you getting what you want from your relationship? Do you feel comfortable expressing your true s*xual self? The Power of Pleasure offers a unique approach to s*x and intimacy coaching that is more powerful and effective than traditional relationship talk therapy. Using a somatic based embodied approach, we will help you become empowered around your s*xuality and be able to understand and express your needs and desires. You will learn new skills to become a better and more confident lover, increase your s*xual energy, and create more intimate and juicy relationships. We take an experiential approach to s*x and intimacy coaching enabling you to practice new skills and receive immediate feedback. While at all times we maintain a high level of professionalism, our sessions our often filled with fun and laughter as we explore new experiences, deepen connection, and examine our edges.

02/10/2026

Empty nesting is one of the biggest — and most overlooked — turning points in a relationship.

When children are no longer the center of daily life, couples are often faced with an uncomfortable but powerful question:
Who are we now — without parenting in the way?

For some couples, this season clarifies that it’s time to part.
For others, it becomes an opportunity to reestablish connection, intimacy, and friendship — intentionally.

In this podcast clip, we talk about:
• The fears that surface during empty nesting
• Why many couples drift instead of decide
• How this season can become a reset, not a rupture
• What it looks like to consciously prioritize intimacy again

🎧 The podcast link is in the comments.

02/07/2026

I didn’t write these books to be inspirational.
I wrote them to be useful.

Because intimacy doesn’t fade from lack of love.
It fades from unspoken hurts, missed conversations, and moments we don’t know how to repair.

That’s why The S*x & Intimacy Repair Kit exists.
It’s not about doing intimacy “right.”
It’s about learning how to come back to each other — again and again.

And Living an Or****ic Life goes even deeper…
into healing your relationship with pleasure, your body, and your capacity to feel alive — not just s*xually, but emotionally and spiritually too.

✨ Right now, when you pre-order The S*x & Intimacy Repair Kit, you’ll receive an exclusive opportunity:
You’ll be entered to win a spot at our 2027 Costa Rica Couples Retreat, valued at $10,000 — a sacred, immersive experience designed to help couples reconnect at the deepest level.

This bonus is limited to the first 100 pre-orders.

If your relationship matters to you —
If you feel the distance and don’t want it to grow —
This is your moment to choose repair, connection, and possibility.

👉 Pre-order now.
👇 Pre-order link in the comments below.

Then forward your receipt to xanet@powerofpleasure.com
to be entered.

Your intimacy is worth tending to.
And it’s never too late to begin again. 💗

*xAndIntimacyRepairKit

02/06/2026

Imagine stepping away from the noise of daily life and remembering why you chose each other in the first place.

This isn’t about escaping your relationship — it’s about returning to it.
With presence. With honesty. With desire that feels alive again.

Passion in Paradise is a sacred week for couples who know there’s more possible — more connection, more depth, more play — and are ready to explore it together.

We’ll gather in the cloud-forest mountains of Costa Rica, surrounded by nature that invites you to slow down, soften, and open. This space is designed to help intimacy evolve with you — not fade under the weight of routine.

This is for couples who want to:
✨ Reignite emotional and physical connection
✨ Communicate with truth and tenderness
✨ Explore sensuality with curiosity, joy, and safety

👉 Feb 9–15, 2026
📍 Verdesana, Costa Rica

Space is intentionally limited so the experience stays deep and personal.
If your relationship is calling for something more… listen.

💬 Comment “PARADISE” and I’ll send you the registration link with all the details.

02/05/2026

Most couples don’t avoid difficult conversations because they don’t care.

They avoid them because, over time, honesty can start to feel emotionally risky.

When conversations carry years of history, unmet needs, and fear of conflict, silence can quietly feel safer than speaking up.

But avoidance doesn’t create peace—it creates distance.

Emotional safety is the foundation of both emotional and s*xual intimacy.
When safety is restored, honesty becomes possible again—and connection can begin to heal.

These themes are at the heart of my work with couples and are explored deeply in my books The S*x & Intimacy Repair Kit and Living an Or****ic Life.

👉 Book links are in the comments.

02/03/2026

One of the biggest challenges couples face isn’t a lack of love —
it’s not knowing how to talk about intimacy safely.

I created my Intimacy Equation Quiz to make that first conversation easier.

It’s a quick, fun way to explore how you experience intimacy — whether that’s through emotional connection, touch, safety, or adventure — and then invite your partner into the conversation with curiosity instead of fear.

I shared more about this on The Intimacy Inquiry podcast with Andrew Phipps, and why safety is the doorway to deeper intimacy.

👉 Podcast link is in the comments.

01/31/2026

48 Hours to Rebuild Intimacy—Gently and Together

For years, I believed intimacy problems meant something was wrong with us.
That we weren’t compatible.
That desire naturally fades if you don’t work hard enough.

What I didn’t understand then is this:

When the nervous system doesn’t feel safe, intimacy shuts down—no matter how much love is present.

Stress, overwhelm, resentment, emotional shutdown—these aren’t personal failures. They’re protective responses. And protection often looks like low desire, avoidance, conflict, numbness, or feeling disconnected even during s*x.

This isn’t a character flaw.
It’s biology.

That understanding changed my relationship—and my life.
It’s also why I wrote The S*x & Intimacy Repair Kit.

This book isn’t about tricks, techniques, or pushing through discomfort. It’s about helping you understand what’s happening beneath the surface—and giving you a clear, compassionate path back to safety, connection, and intimacy.

💗 For a limited time, pre-order supporters receive:
• The 30-Day Connection Reset Calendar (available immediately)
• A 30-minute guided Intimacy Reset audio practice I recorded
• Entry into a drawing for a complimentary spot at my 2027 Costa Rica Couples Retreat (valued at $10,000)

⏳ This bonus window closes in 48 hours.

If you’ve ever wondered:
“Why do we love each other but still feel disconnected?”
“Why does intimacy feel hard when it used to feel easy?”
“Why does my body shut down even when my heart wants closeness?”

This book is for you.

📘 Pre-order link is in the comments.

You’re not broken.
Your nervous system just needs support.

And intimacy can be repaired—gently, honestly, and together. 💗

01/30/2026

One of the most powerful parts of Passion in Paradise is watching couples step out of daily life—and back into each other.

A recent couple shared how having dedicated space, guided exploration, and intentional conversations helped them uncover fears they’d never named, release long-held doubts, and reconnect with who they are becoming as a couple.

This retreat isn’t about pressure or performance.
It’s about safety, curiosity, and real connection.

If you’ve been craving time to focus on us again, this experience was created for you.

👉 Link to register in the comments below.

01/29/2026

Can love and se exxist separately in the long run—or do they inevitably reflect something deeper happening beneath the surface?

Curious what this question brings up for you.

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01/28/2026

I sat down for an honest, deeply nourishing conversation on the Dr. Mom Podcast with Dr. Angela Downey () and we went straight into the conversations so many women are holding inside their bodies.

We talked about why so many intelligent, capable, high-achieving women feel disconnected from their desire, their bodies, and their partners…
even when they’re doing everything they were told would “fix” intimacy.

In this episode, we explored:
• What’s really happening in s*xless or low-desire marriages
• The perimenopause myths that keep women blaming themselves
• Why emotional safety—not effort—is the foundation of intimacy
• How intimacy shifts when we move from obligation to genuine connection

If you’ve ever caught yourself asking,
“What happened to my desire?”
or
“Why doesn’t intimacy feel nourishing anymore?”
this conversation was made for you.

You are not broken.
Your body is not betraying you.
And intimacy can feel good again—when we change the conversation and the conditions around it.

The full podcast link is in the comments below.

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01/27/2026

I wish I had known this earlier in my relationship:

Intimacy isn’t just about desire.
It’s about the nervous system.

For years, I thought our struggles around s*x and connection meant something was wrong with us…
That we weren’t compatible.
That passion just fades if you don’t work hard enough.

What I didn’t understand then was this:

When your nervous system doesn’t feel safe, intimacy shuts down—no matter how much love is present.

If your body is stuck in stress, overwhelm, resentment, or emotional shutdown, it doesn’t matter how much you want closeness. Your nervous system is doing its job—protecting you.

And protection often looks like:
• low desire
• avoidance
• conflict
• numbness
• “roommate energy”
• or feeling disconnected even during s*x

This isn’t a character flaw.
It’s biology.

True intimacy requires regulation—not just communication.

When partners learn how to calm their nervous systems together, something powerful happens:
• conversations soften
• touch feels safer
• desire becomes accessible again
• emotional closeness returns
• s*x stops feeling like pressure and starts feeling like connection

This understanding changed my relationship—and my life.

It’s why I wrote The S*x & Intimacy Repair Kit.

Not to give you tricks or scripts—but to help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface, and how to rebuild intimacy from a place of safety, presence, and attunement.

If you’ve ever wondered:
“Why do we love each other but still feel disconnected?”
“Why does intimacy feel hard when it used to feel easy?”
“Why does my body shut down even when my heart wants closeness?”

This book is for you.

Pre-order now on Amazon. Link in the comments below.

💗 Pre-order supporters receive the 30-Day Connection Reset Calendar, a guided Intimacy Reset audio, and entry into a drawing for my 2027 Costa Rica Couples Retreat.

You’re not broken.
Your nervous system just needs support.

And intimacy can be repaired—gently, honestly, and together. 💗

*xandconnection

01/23/2026

Sometimes couples don’t come to a retreat because something is “broken.”

They come because they want to grow together on purpose.

After spending a week with us at Passion in Paradise, one couple shared this:

They felt how intentionally the space was chosen:
intimate, inviting, nourishing not just the body, but the soul.

They talked about building lifelong friendships,
about learning a shared language around love, passion, secs, communication, and emotional connection.

They came married just three years;
both in their second marriages;
wanting skills that would help them keep choosing each other as they grow.

And they left feeling closer, more connected, and deeply aligned.

That’s what Passion in Paradise is really about.

Not just intimacy in the bedroom—
but intimacy in how you speak, listen, feel, and meet each other.

✨ Passion in Paradise
A Valentine’s Week Intimacy Retreat
📍 Verdesana by Imiloa, Costa Rica
📅 Feb 9–15, 2026

If you’ve been on the fence…
this is your sign.

Check the Comment below for the registration link.

01/22/2026

“Scheduling secs? Isn’t that unromantic?”

I hear this all the time. People are horrified by the idea.
They think passion has to be spontaneous. Overwhelming. Impossible to resist.

And then… real life shows up. Kids. Work. Exhaustion. Mental load.

Here’s the truth most couples never hear:
You can’t schedule passion. But you can schedule secs.

And when you do? You often end up having more secs — and better secs.
Because scheduling isn’t about obligation. It’s about intention. Anticipation. Co-creation.

It’s asking: What do we want to explore tonight? How do we want to show up for each other? What would make this feel nourishing… or playful… or deeply connecting?

Planning can be secsy. Anticipation can be erotic. Effort doesn’t kill desire — neglect does.

If this resonates with you, or if you’ve ever struggled with intimacy in a long-term relationship, see comment below for the full podcast episode where we go deeper into this conversation.

You’re not broken. Your relationship isn’t doomed. You may just need a different approach.

*xAfterKids *xPositive

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