12/27/2025
Feeling grateful to be featured in The Wall Street Journal sharing relationship wisdom.
I first learned the concept of “staying in the boat” years ago with a therapist, while navigating the natural ups and downs of relationships.
When discord, disagreement, or unease arises with someone we love, the invitation is to pause. Take a breath. Stay curious. Ask yourself: What’s really happening here?
What’s coming up for the other person isn’t about you. Curiosity brings us into a calm, parasympathetic state - where clarity can surface. Sometimes that means taking a break and returning to the conversation later.
Learning to work with energy boundaries is life-changing. When you stay in the boat, you create space for safety, trust, and deeper connection to emerge.
Thank you to The Wall Street Journal and Elizabeth Bernstein for including me in your annual relationship advice column.
Click the link below to read the full article:
https://www.wsj.com/lifestyle/relationships/best-relationship-advice-new-year-673ab080?reflink=desktopwebshare_permalink