Fighting For Your Marriage

08/12/2021

Well it's been a long while since I posted anything here. Doesn't mean I'm not still fighting for my marriage on the daily, but it's been a rough 2020/2021 for everyone. My wife and I continue this journey of life together, relying on God, relying on friends and family, but most importantly, relying on each other. This does not mean all things are just peachy, but whether we're enduring struggles or celebrating little victories, we're facing them together. How we do that is sometimes more difficult than others, but us working as a team is a lot more effective than facing things alone. I rely on her, she relies on me and our children rely on both of us. Not much choice when you really think about it...a healthy marriage is a do it together proposition, not a go it alone endeavor.

07/07/2019

04/20/2019

This person, should be your spouse.

12/29/2018

Unfortunately, the problem is, usually when life is going sideways is when spouses abandon ship. Stick it out, and work it out together. Two are always stronger than one.

10/29/2018

"Husbands serve their wives not by submitting to them, but by leading them and by loving them with a sacrificial love. In imitation of the way that Christ loves the church." -Ephesians 5:25–33

09/14/2018

"It’s on my heart to encourage married couples in the art of laying oneself down for eachother. Your husband has a call of God on his life, likewise, your wife has a call of God on her life. What if that call were to make you uncomfortable in the sense that – your selfish wants went unmet? Would you still allow them to follow the leading of the Lord? My husband and I quite often find ourselves in situations that are uncomfortable, but because of our love for the Lord, and our knowing of the call that He has on our lives, we make ourselves willing to handle the discomfort. Would you by choice spend weeks at a time away while your spouse is working or training somewhere? Would you sacrifice your time and comfort to help around the house more because your spouse has gone back to school AND works full time? We’re called to be fruitful and to multiply… that doesn’t mean just to have kids and fill the earth. If you’re called to be in a marketplace position, be fruitful in it and share the love of the Lord as you work. If you’re called to be in school, be fruitful in it and share Jesus with your classmates. When we can lay down our wants and desires for the sake of promoting our spouse in such an unselfish manner so that they can become all that God wants for them – you’re going to be blessed. When you do that for your spouse, you’re sowing into the kingdom – and what you sow – you will reap. The discomfort you may be feeling – think of it this way – when a farmer tills the land – isn’t it a bit uncomfortable (minus modern machinery). Laboring is work, sowing is work, but the harvest time is when you will see the overabundance of fruit that has been birthed from your sowing. Look to God for the purpose and the vision in your spouse's life – and get on board with that vision. The amount of time you spend sowing into your marriage in this respect will result in enormous blessings for your marriage and your friendship. Maintaining your stance of refusing to allow your spouse to do something they’re called to do is likely the reason for the strife in your marriage. Wouldn’t you rather let go of the control factor and let God be the King in your marriage? Think of the blessings that will manifest when you let go and let God have His way." -Erika Collins

08/08/2018

"Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” “At last!” the man exclaimed. “This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one."
-Genesis 2:18‭, ‬24

05/20/2018

Sacrifice is one of the foundations of success, especially in marriage. "Unconditional love that is always giving and impossible to take or be a taker. It devotes total commitment to seek your highest best no matter how anyone may respond. This form of love is totally selfless and does not change whether the love given is returned or not." -Agape Love definition.