02/27/2026
Self-Doubt is the destroyer of joy!
Sometimes we can't escape that voice in our head that seems louder when we are doing new things. That voice is doubt.
That's the voice that tells us we aren't doing things good enough, that other people are better than us, that life is difficult, etc..
When we are in the mists of a new job, a new project, a new role, a new relationship our doubt comes to the surface. In the past we might have experienced situations that felt threatening. Situations that felt like if we didn't do a good job then something horrible would happen to us.
Our silent protector jumps into action. This is our nervous system. A highly advanced system that has been taking in information all throughout your life. It runs on autopilot and sends messages through our vagas nerve that sends the messages up to the brain. Our body feels it first then our brain responds.
After many years of Hyper-vigalence, we find this as our normal response and may find ourselves saying things like, "I'm so stressed out.", "when is life going to get easier?", "why can't I be care-free like so-and-so?".You maybe called a worry-wart or feel anxiety towards failing people in authority.
I want to tell you, you are okay. You are safe and now I want you to tell yourself the same thing, I am safe!
Being able to switch our Hyper-vigalence into calm means we need to tell our nervous system and our belief system that we are safe. These two systems work in tandem. The body will believe whatever you tell it.
If you say, I am stressed, your body responds and you're going to feel stressed.
If you say, I can't do this, then you will see all the ways you make mistakes. You will feel the panic come in.
The belief system needs to honor every belief. It doesn't care of it is true or not or of it is wrong or right, it just follows the orders you give it. The nervous system will follow through with feelings that support the belief system. This is how the body keeps you "safe".
We need to decide what is true. We need to catch our thoughts and put them through a lie detector and weight it as fact or just something we believe to be true.
One way to keep the voice of doubt at bay is to have fun, be curious and find ways to enjoy the process. Stop focusing on the end result and focus at what you are doing in that moment.
Find the excitement, the joy and wonderment of the moment. In the begining, this is a challenge but when you are devoted to this task, it will become easier. Devotion and intention are the key!!!
One of my favorite questions to ask myself is, I wonder how much joy I will allow myself to experience in this moment? Questions perk up the subconscious mind and signal there is a new experience you are looking for. Its like changing your sunglasses for a different kind of glasses. It helps you see life through a different lens.
The one thing you can't do is lie to yourself. You are allowed to feel an array of emotions and not just one. So you're not failing if you still feel scared, stress and a little bit curious about how this will turn out for your highest and best good.
Start small, practice often and be extra kind to yourself. Patience and practice are key.
You got this....Just one moment at a time!!!
