12/20/2025
๐ ๐๐ญ๐จ๐ซ๐ฒ๐ญ๐๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐๐ญ๐ฎ๐ซ๐๐๐ฒ: Alexโs Holiday Story ๐
Alex walked into session last week with a mix of dread and hope. โ๐โ๐ โ๐๐๐๐๐๐ฆ๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐, ๐๐๐ ๐ผโ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ฆ ๐๐๐ฅ๐๐๐ข๐ ,โ Alex admitted. โ๐ผ ๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ฆ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ฆ, ๐๐ข๐ก ๐๐ฃ๐๐๐ฆ ๐ฆ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐ค๐๐กโ ๐ก๐๐๐ ๐๐๐, ๐๐๐๐ข๐๐๐๐ก๐ , ๐๐ ๐๐ ๐ โ๐ข๐ก๐ก๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ค๐ ๐๐๐ก๐๐๐๐๐ฆ.โ
We started by mapping out what made these gatherings so stressful: old family patterns, unspoken expectations, and conversations that quickly turned into debates. Alex shared memories of trying to please everyone, feeling like they were walking on eggshells, and going home emotionally exhausted.
Together, we worked on strategies to navigate these dynamics:
โข ๐๐๐ญ๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐จ๐ฎ๐ง๐๐๐ซ๐ข๐๐ฌ on topics and time spent together
โข ๐๐ฅ๐๐ง๐ง๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐ซ๐ข๐๐ โ๐๐ก๐๐๐ค-๐จ๐ฎ๐ญโ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ฆ๐๐ง๐ญ๐ฌ to breathe or step outside when tension rises
โข ๐๐๐ก๐๐๐ซ๐ฌ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฉ๐ก๐ซ๐๐ฌ๐๐ฌ to respond calmly instead of reacting automatically
โข ๐๐ก๐ข๐๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐จ๐๐ฎ๐ฌ to the people and moments that truly bring joy
By the end of the session, Alex felt a sense of control he hadnโt felt in years. The plan wasnโt to fix the familyโor change anyone elseโit was to ๐ฌ๐ก๐จ๐ฐ ๐ฎ๐ฉ ๐๐ฎ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐๐๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ, ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐ญ๐๐๐ญ ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ ๐จ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ฉ๐๐๐๐, ๐๐ง๐ ๐ก๐จ๐ง๐จ๐ซ ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ ๐๐๐๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฌ.
โจ ๐๐๐ค๐๐๐ฐ๐๐ฒ: Family stress is real, but with preparation, boundaries, and self-compassion, you can surviveโand even enjoyโthe holidays.
If youโre feeling the weight of family gatherings, remember: itโs okay to prioritize your mental health. You deserve space, calm, and moments of joy. ๐