Full Circle Counseling-Valerie Olson

11/06/2025

11/03/2025

Great video here. We can change these patterns. The first step is awareness. 👌

https://youtu.be/y02Br6-M6mQ?si=cPBP99kYKw7ZEbGM

From a YT video I released on “codependency”—“Codependency and Childhood Trauma.”⠀ We often have a vague assumption about what codependency is, and it's not just needing someone by us for security. ⠀ ⠀

It's a complex survival strategy that I think stems a lot from childhood trauma.

It's the types of strategies that help redefine what codependency is. ⠀ ⠀

On the left we have a caretaking type. On the right, we have a change of the other type.⁠ What unites all codependent types is control, manipulation, poor communication, and low self-esteem. ⠀ ⠀

In the video, I discuss:⠀

- how codependency originates in the abusive family system.⠀

- What strategy did we come up with as children to deal with our parents individually?

- how codependency was modeled in our dysfunctional family system.

11/02/2025

"Sometimes the greatest gift a friend can give is not a solution, or advice, or even the promise of brighter days, but simply their quiet presence. Life is not always about fixing what is broken, but about walking beside someone in their brokenness so they don’t have to face it alone. A true friend is not one who only shows up when the sun is shining, but one who lays down beside you when the clouds are heavy and the rain seems endless. They are the kind of person who doesn’t hurry your healing or try to pull you to your feet before you are ready, but who reminds you that you are worthy of love, even in your lowest moments. Their listening becomes a safe place, their silence becomes a comfort, and their presence becomes a reminder that you are never truly alone. Sometimes friendship is not about doing, but about being—being there when it matters, being still when words fail, and being strong when you cannot. And in those gentle moments, when the world feels heavy, you discover that the truest kind of love isn’t about carrying each other’s burdens away, but about carrying each other through them."

10/31/2025

10/24/2025

Quit rescuing those who aren’t ready to take responsibility for their own growth. It’s tempting to step in, to fix, guide, or carry someone through their struggles—but true transformation can only happen when they show up for themselves. Pouring your energy into someone else’s journey can leave you drained, frustrated, and disconnected from your own path. Your growth, your healing, and your peace are your responsibility. When others are ready, they will take their own steps!

10/21/2025

We can be better than ever.

10/19/2025

I'm proud of you.

The progress you can’t see is STILL progress.

The effort, the consistency, and showing up - it all stacks up behind the scenes.

Most people give up right before things start to turn. They mistake the invisible progress for no progress at all.

But not you. You know you’re inching forward with every small action you take, with every tiny promise you keep with yourself.

Keep going and keep showing up ❤️

You’ve got this.