Candid Counseling

09/03/2025

Feel free to share if you know of someone looking to connect with a therapist.

04/24/2025

For those of you who don’t know, I, Cheryl Buroker, have decided to pursue business independently! I will be providing updates as things continue to fall into place.

I will be offering discounted rates until I am credentialed with insurance companies.

If you know of anyone seeking counseling services please have them reach out to me to see if we would be a good fit. Contact information for me would be cheryl@candidcounselingllc.org

I will be working fully virtual for the time being, with the hopes of having space in Janesville a few times a month for in-person sessions.

09/19/2022

You can love people from a distance and hope they heal. Making it your duty to stay while being harmed hurts you and potentially delays your healing and theirs.

08/07/2022

07/21/2022

988, do you know what it is?

05/17/2022

Many of us, when it comes to s*xuality, tend to do what we think we should do rather than what we’d like to be doing. We get stuck in ruts and disconnect from our imaginations. We would love to experience new things with our partners but we can be afraid to invite ourselves or them. A minor annoyance or a major impasse can both be catalysts for shutting down s*xually. Sometimes we’re “not in the mood;” other times we wonder if we’ve lost what once made us desirable to our partners.

We tend to think of these as s*xual issues, but really, it’s an erotic dilemma. Contrary to what we are taught, eroticism isn’t purely s*xual; it is s*xuality transformed and socialized by the human imagination. The imagination creates the plot. Flirtation, longing, and anticipation all play within our mind’s eye, where our erotic faculties live. And eroticism itself is a time machine. It’s activated by the pains and pleasures of our complicated pasts. It breeds hope and possibilities for the future. It makes us feel alive and utterly present.

Don’t know what I mean? Think about a favorite activity. Let’s say, you love to play soccer, tennis, or ping-pong. Last time, you won your game. Thinking about that win gets you excited about the next time you’ll play. At home, you wash your gear. You text your teammates to schedule practice. You check the weather. There’s a whole ritual that builds anticipation.

So why, when it comes to s*x, do people seem to think that just saying “do you want to have s*x” after doing the dishes is a sufficient warm up? Play ball, people!

Engaging in eroticism enables us to maintain a sense of aliveness, vibrancy, and vitality. As Octavio Paz has implied, eroticism is the poetry of the body the way that poetry is the eroticism of language. Don’t let a difficult phase be a death sentence for your s*x life or your relationship. Together, you can come through it.

Visit my blog “Bringing Home the Erotic” through the link below for five ways to create meaningful connections with your partner. https://bit.ly/3LnHah0

05/11/2022

According to The National Human Trafficking Hotline, these are a few apps you might want to download for yourself and/or your kids:

•Circle of Six: This app lets you add up to 6 people from your contacts to join your Circle. With one click, you can send the following commands:
~The pin icon sends a text and your GPS location to your Circle that says: “Come and get me. I need help getting home safely.”
~The phone icon sends a text to your Circle that says: “Call and pretend you need me. I need an interruption.”
~The chat icon sends a text to your Circle that says: “I need to talk.” Your friends can then immediately respond to your situation.

•BSafe: This has six features to help you stay safe.
~The Alarm feature sets off a siren. The app starts recording video and voice as well as sending your GPS location to your chosen friends.
~The Follow Me feature lets friends follow your movements on the mobile map. Once you have arrived home safely, your friends will be notified.
~The Fake Call feature will make your phone call you.
~The Recording feature automatically starts recording video and audio and the recording is sent your primary person’s mobile phone.
~The I Am Here feature shares your location with your friends.
~The Timer feature notifies your friends if you have not checked in within a certain time.

•SafeTrek: *this requires a monthly or yearly fee
~To use it you open the app and hold your thumb on the “safe” button. If you determine you are safe, release the button and enter your 4 digit pin. If you are in danger, release the button and do not enter your pin. Local police will be notified of your location.

You can also find information on the National Human Trafficking Hotline website.

11/13/2021

SSM Health St. Mary's Hospital - Janesville is a "Safe Haven" location. This means that parents are able to safely leave unharmed newborn infants (under 72 hours old) at our facility.

Under Wisconsin law, parents can leave their baby with a hospital caregiver, police officer or 911 emergency medical staff person without fear of legal consequences. If the parent does not indicate that they will return for the child, this is called “Safe Haven."

Parents do not have to give their name or address to the caregiver who accepts the baby, unless the baby is hurt, the person is being forced to give up the baby, or the baby is more than 3 days old.

11/11/2021

Do not put your children through the same conditions you experienced with the same people, expecting that this time will be different.

When people have not changed, be intentional about what the relationship can look like with your children. If you're unsure if someone has changed, it might be time to have a difficult conversation to assess if they think differently, behave differently, and can accept accountability.

10/07/2021

10/07/2021

Yes!! Choose to be kind 💜