02/12/2026
Healing from shame is one of the most powerful and essential keys to lasting recovery from an eating disorder. For nearly everyone navigating this path, shame weaves itself deeply into the experience—quietly fueling self-criticism, isolation, and the very behaviors we're working to release.
Shame traps us in cycles of stuckness, whispering that we're unworthy or broken beyond repair. Yet healing from shame opens the door to genuine forward movement, self-acceptance, and freedom. As I often share with my clients:
Trying to progress in recovery while weighed down by shame is like attempting a long journey with heavy sandbags strapped to your shoulders—it's exhausting, painful, and feels nearly impossible.
The beautiful truth is that you deserve the same warmth, understanding, and gentleness you so readily extend to others. You are worthy of that same compassion turned inward.
A gentle, transformative place to begin is with daily shame-releasing or self-compassion affirmations. Start simple—even if the words feel distant or untrue at first. Belief often follows consistent practice.
Here are a few affirming statements to try (feel free to adapt them to resonate more deeply with you):
"I am worthy of love, kindness, and compassion—exactly as I am right now."
"I release shame; it no longer defines my worth or my path."
"I offer myself the same grace I give to those I care about."
"My struggles do not make me broken—they make me human, and I am learning to heal."
"I am deserving of recovery, peace, and freedom from this burden."
One of my former clients found the concept of self-compassion so foreign that her initial goal was simply to say the words "self-compassion" out loud each day. That tiny, brave step was real progress. Months later, she crafted her own full affirmation—and it marked a profound shift.
Progress is progress, no matter how incremental it appears. Every small act of kindness toward yourself chips away at shame's hold and builds momentum.
You deserve to walk this journey lighter, freer, and with a heart that finally feels safe to heal. You've already taken courageous steps by being here—keep going. You're not alone, and you are worthy!