Therapist For The Second Half

06/24/2025

It’s been a year since I have been separated and easy no, more peace on most days, yes

04/18/2024

It is not your job to carry or fix someone else's trauma.

03/24/2024

Unfortunately, I have experienced A LOT of grief in my life. My experience with the loss of important people I loved has given me a deep understanding of the dark places it takes you. I walked that path starting with my Dad’s sudden death at 16
I have NEVER used it as an excuse to mistreat people, especially the people I love.
Grief does not give anyone a blank check to be an as***le for years. It is wrong, and called emotional abuse.

02/06/2022

New beginnings as I shift into FT entrepreneurship in my therapy practice. More on my IG page.

02/06/2022

Just because you are here in this 🌎 makes you worthy!

01/18/2022

One of the first articles I was featured in!
Relationship issues are the top reason people start therapy. Looking at how you show up for your partner can help you maintain your connection.

Keeping your relationship interesting when you've been with your partner forever can seem like a challenge. The big worry here is that someone may get bored, lose interest, and leave. But according to experts, it doesn't have to be that way. In…

10/27/2021

The mental tool of COVID-19 is impacting people more than we understand.

Day-to-day stresses are overwhelming younger adults and parents. The APA says mental health supports must be prioritized.

10/10/2021

Understanding what your needs are is an important factor in relationships. Once there is understanding, communication of what those needs are is important.

Are you and your partner expressing your desires and boundaries in ways that deepen your connection?

When it comes to meeting needs, communication and compromise are a necessity. If our partners are unwilling to meet our needs, the relationship cannot thrive. If we are unwilling to meet our partner’s needs, the outcome remains the same. Sometimes, your needs will conflict with one another and will require you both to communicate and come to a compromise together.

Discover research-based tools and exercises for communicating your needs with help from Gottman Relationship Coach. Get started today: https://bit.ly/3ci5PUO

09/15/2021

https://www.gottman.com/blog/when-trauma-blocking-gets-in-the-way/

Greetings!
The past year has been very difficult personally and very beautiful at the same time. I have been quiet on this platform as I grappled with a complicated pregnancy and postpartum period.

This article was written and published during the storm last year. I am so honored to have the opportunity to write for the Gottman’s and share my insight to help others.

Examining efforts to block out and overwhelm residual painful feelings resulting from trauma.

01/05/2020

said this at Oprah’s 2020 vision tour in Florida last night. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀

This post may not be popular, but it resonates as more studies are confirming alcohol dependency among women in their 30s, 40s, and 50s is increasing in America.⠀⠀ ⠀⠀

Alcohol has replaced smoking as a more socially acceptable coping mechanism. ⠀ ⠀

For many women dealing with untreated trauma, anxiety, and high stress of life in the 21 century excessive alcohol consumption has also become socially acceptable. ⠀ ⠀⠀

Just think back to a decade ago and now. Every show you watch with a female character, or reality show every shot activities are centered around excessive drinking. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀

In some of our favorite shows as soon as the overwhelmed mom comes home, she needs to decompress. ⠀⠀
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Enjoying a drink or a glass of wine is fine for many people. ⠀ ⠀

But if drinking is being used to dull pain, avoid difficulty emotions, cope with stressors, cope with unresolved trauma, it’s an unhealthy coping mechanism. ⠀

Unpacking the why behind unhealthy coping mechanism with a therapist is a first of many steps to get you on better path in 2020.

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