10/30/2025
Who are you without the costume?
You spent so long being the version of the parent your family needed that you forgot who you actually are.
The responsible one.
The easy one.
The one who never complains or causes problems.
The one who shows up no matter what, even when you’re running on empty.
That role kept you safe growing up.
It earned you love or at least kept the peace.
But now you’re an adult and the costume doesn’t fit anymore.
It’s suffocating.
And taking it off feels terrifying because what if people don’t like the real you?
Here’s the truth 💙
The people who only love the performing version of you aren’t loving you at all.
They’re loving what you do for them.
And that’s not the same thing.
Healing means risking being seen as you actually are.
Tired. Opinionated. Boundaried. Imperfect. Human.
It means letting people be uncomfortable with the fact that you’re no longer shrinking yourself to make their life easier.
You are allowed to be more than the role you were given
If you’ve ever hidden your authentic self to keep the peace, drop a 💙 below.
