Aligned EMDR & Counseling Amy Lowery, LMFT

11/11/2025

We watched an amazing documentary this weekend: 🌊In Waves and War 🌊

On this Veterans Day, I’m especially grateful for the hope it brings: to veterans, to trauma-survivors, and to anyone who’s carried the weight of battle (visible or invisible).

If you’re a vet or supporting one: the idea that treatments are evolving, that there are pathways to reclaiming safety, regulation, and peace- that’s what these stories wake us up to.

To our veterans: thank you for your service. And to everyone reading: if your nervous system is still holding the fight-or-flight, the battle that won’t end- healing isn’t just a possibility. It’s becoming reality.

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10/22/2025

10/07/2025

We learn early that love and safety can depend on how easy we are to be around.

How agreeable. How forgiving. How much discomfort we can absorb so no one else has to.

But that kind of “peace” isn’t peace at all - it’s self-abandonment dressed up as harmony.

Real peace comes when you can speak your truth without rehearsing it first.

When you can set a boundary without panic rising in your chest.

When you can trust that love built on authenticity is safer than love built on silence.

If you’re ready to stop shrinking, over-explaining, and internalizing everyone else’s emotions - this work is for you.

Therapy can help you learn what safety actually feels like in your body so you can start living from it instead of chasing it.

💬 Ready to begin?
Click the link in my bio to book your intro call today. Let’s help you find peace that doesn’t require self-betrayal.

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10/05/2025

Sometimes fawning doesn’t look like fear.
It looks like competence.
It looks like being the dependable one.
It looks like keeping the peace because someone has to.

Fawning is the nervous system’s submission response - a trauma-adapted strategy where connection equals safety.

When you were raised in or experienced trauma in environments where anger, criticism, or rejection felt dangerous, your body learned:

“Stay pleasing. Stay small. Stay agreeable. That’s how we survive.”

So as adults, it can show up as:
➡️Over-functioning - doing everything so no one gets upset.
➡️Downplaying your needs - “It’s fine, really, don’t worry about it.”
➡️Grieving silently - because showing your pain feels like a burden.
➡️Ignoring your own discomfort - to maintain the illusion that everything’s okay.

But fawning isn’t your personality - it’s your protective wiring.

The same system that kept you safe once is now asking for repair.

Healing looks like learning to pause before performing, to notice the pull to fix or please, and to give your own needs the same gentleness you’ve offered everyone else.

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