11/07/2025
Some people claim that holding your baby too much will “spoil” them that they’ll never want to be put down.
They say if a baby sleeps next to their mother, they’ll never learn to sleep alone.
They tell breastfeeding moms to “take that baby off the boob” because it’s a bad habit.
Yet not once have I heard a factual explanation for how feeding or comforting your baby from your own body could possibly be a bad habit.
Moms who babywear are told their little ones will “never learn to walk.”
Moms who choose to breastfeed instead of pump are told they’re “selfish” for nursing in public as if feeding a baby could ever be offensive.
That one always blows my mind.
The truth is, the movement to empower natural and attachment-style parenting exists because of the stigma society has built around mothers who simply follow their instincts.
Before strollers, there were arms.
Before cribs, there were mothers’ beds the safest place a baby could be.
Before bottles and binkies, there were breasts providing food, comfort, and connection all in one.
No one questioned why a baby was always at the breast. It wasn’t seen as “clingy” or “bad habits.” It was just normal.
Mothers held their babies often, but trust me they still learned to walk.
So what’s changed?
Why do people now act like “attachment parenting” or “crunchy mom” behavior is strange or wrong, when it’s literally the same way mothers have nurtured their babies since the beginning of time?
Sure, humanity evolves. But not everything needs reinventing. Some things were already perfected like a mother’s touch, her milk, her instincts.
So instead of shaming moms for breastfeeding, co-sleeping, or baby-wearing, maybe we should recognize the irony:
Every “modern” alternative that people push bottles, pacifiers, bassinets were created to mimic the very things they now criticize.
Now that’s the real contradiction.
