03/26/2026
💥❤️💥
Focusing on what your partner does to trigger your hurt is very different than sharing the hurt. Mission- view of self or other?
Example One: When you reject me, I feel unlovable to you. Example Two: When I'm alone, I feel like I deserve to be rejected.
The first primes the partner's defensive emotional system.
The second primes the partner's caregiving system to take action.
How we frame it can make all the difference!