11/11/2025
You Can Teach The People You Love How To Love You! 😍
✨ “We’re always teaching the people we love how to love us.” ✨
Most of us do it unconsciously — through our tone, our withdrawal, or our silence.
But when we become conscious about it, everything can change.
You can say things like:
🗣️ “When I’ve had a long day, it helps when you say, ‘That sounds hard—I get why you’re tired.’”
💬 “Could we have a few minutes of no phones after dinner? That helps me feel close to you.”
💗 “It would feel really good to hear you say you’re proud of me sometimes.”
That might sound simple, but it’s leadership in love.
It’s how we train each other — not to manipulate, but to show what care looks like for us.
Years ago, when I was living in Alaska, I realized my mom and I never said “I love you” on the phone.
I asked her why. She didn’t know.
Saying those words was uncomfortable for her, even though I always knew she felt them.
After that conversation, we started saying “I love you” every time we hung up.
It felt awkward for nearly a year — like we were practicing a language we hadn’t spoken before.
But eventually, it became natural. The awkwardness faded, and all that was left was the love that had been there all along.
That’s what happens when we consciously teach and learn love.
We build new safety, new language, new connection.
💞 So yes — speak up about what you need.
But also — create safety for the people you love to tell you what they need, too.
Because real love is a two-way training ground.
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Reflection:
What’s one way you could teach someone how to love you this week — and one way you could create space for them to teach you the same?