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11/25/2025

11/23/2025

The Power of the Soulful Leader:
Healing Through Surrender

“Surrender isn’t giving up,
it’s choosing to stop the fight so love can finally begin.”

Sometimes, couples come to me with one foot out the door. They feel stuck in an endless loop of conflict, convinced nothing will ever change. Yet, in nearly every relationship, there’s usually one partner more willing to lean in, open up, and step into vulnerability. I call this person the Soulful Leader, the one who chooses to lead with surrender, not control.

The Soulful Leader isn’t surrendering to their partner. They are surrendering to the relationship itself, to the sacred space of WE. They lay down the rope in the tug-of-war, refusing to keep playing the game of pain, shame, and fear. And when one person drops the rope, the game ends. Often, the other partner eventually follows, because real transformation inspires.

This path requires courage. The Soulful Leader must risk: What if I give everything and nothing changes? The truth is, no matter the outcome, they grow. They heal. They reclaim wholeness. And if the relationship survives, it becomes stronger. If it doesn’t, they are better prepared for what comes next. Either way, it’s a win.

A neurologically intelligent relationship invites us to hold space instead of weapons, to replace defensiveness with love, and to see conflict as a call for healing. By choosing surrender over resistance, we create the music of safety, trust, and growth, healing not only ourselves but also the one we love.

Like a mountain climber dropping excess weight, surrender lightens the load, allowing both partners to rise higher together. So, where in your relationships are you still pulling on the rope, and what would happen if you let it go?

“I choose surrender, not as defeat,
but as the path to healing, growth, and deeper love.”

11/19/2025

The Two Gardens of the Mind:
Planting Seeds of Empowerment

"The moment you notice the weeds,
you already hold the power to plant new seeds."

Your life is painted in colors not by what happens to you, but by the stories you tell about it. Every day, you hold an invisible paintbrush, sometimes dipping into vibrant greens of growth and love, other times swirling in reds of fear, shame, or blame. What determines the palette? Where you place your attention, and the language you use to tell your story.

Green is empowerment. In this state, you own your choices. You stop giving power away to the past, to other people, or to circumstances. Love, peace, joy, and gratitude flow like sunlight through a thriving garden. Even challenges become soil for growth.

Red is disempowerment. Here, life feels like it’s happening to you, not with you. Blame takes root, toward others, the world, or even yourself. Old patterns replay, comfort zones masquerade as safe havens, and your words echo frustration: “If only they would… then I could…” These familiar weeds choke the garden of possibility.

But here’s the truth: the moment you notice you’re in the red, you already hold the power to step into the green. Empowerment is not about perfection, it’s about presence. About catching yourself in the act of telling an old story, and daring to plant a new one.

Imagine two gardens. On the left, weeds thrive because your attention and language water them daily. On the right, fresh soil awaits. When you plant the Five Seeds of Empowerment, Now, Gratitude, Giving, Forgiveness, and Faith, you begin to rewire your brain. With consistent care, the weeds wither, and the new garden flourishes.

The garden of your mind will always grow something. The question is: what will you choose to plant today?

Your mind is a garden. Every thought is a seed, every word is water, and every focus is sunlight. Whatever you nurture will grow. So, what seeds are you watering most often, fear and blame, or gratitude and growth?

“I plant seeds of empowerment daily,
and I choose to nurture the garden of my highest self.”

11/16/2025

Lessons in Life, Love and Healing.
Glenn S. Cohen -
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11/16/2025

From Armor to Openness:
The Power of Surrender in Love

"Defensiveness may protect the wound,
but surrender is what heals it."

When relationships hit what I call dysfunction junction, two predictable defense patterns tend to emerge.

The first is denial. One partner points the finger outward, certain that every problem belongs to the other. In session, it’s almost cinematic, no matter what the issue, their eyes plead with me to validate their case: “See what I have to deal with?” They’ve mastered the art of deflection, yet remain blind to their own part in the cycle.

The second defense is battle mode. Imagine strapping on medieval armor: steel helmet, body casing, and boots. You’re hypervigilant, scanning for threats, ready to argue, debate, and prove. I once worked with a client who carried himself like a chess master, waiting to counter every word his partner spoke. But beneath his armor was not power, it was pain. When I asked him to pause, close his eyes, and breathe, tears welled up. His anger wasn’t about winning an argument; it was protecting a wound of feeling unseen and hurt.

This is the paradox: the more we resist, the less we heal. True growth begins not in blame or armor, but in surrender. Surrender is not weakness, it is courage. It is choosing to melt the Teflon shield, to take responsibility for your part, to trust that transformation is possible. So the question becomes: what piece of armor are you willing to lay down today to make space for love, healing, and change?

Like trying to hug someone through a suit of armor, defensiveness keeps us from feeling the warmth that’s already available. So, what shield do you notice yourself carrying in relationships, denial, blame, or battle, and what would it feel like to set it down, even for a moment?

“I release my armor
and open to the possibility
of love, healing, and growth.”