11/25/2025
Assists can reveal more than alignment and anatomy. They show you where you grip, where you rush, where you try to matter a little too much. I’ve learned that the impulse to help can be pure presence or it can be a quiet scramble for relevance. The difference is subtle until it isn’t.
What shifted everything for me was realizing that touch is not about getting someone somewhere. It’s about meeting them where they already are. When my hands come from that place, students rise on their own timeline. When they don’t, I can feel the performative edge immediately.
This is the part of teaching no one really talks about. The inner work behind the outer work. The moment you choose connection over control. Awareness over proving. Attunement over outcome.
If you’ve caught yourself slipping into the old patterns, you’re not alone. Notice it. Name it. Let it soften.
Do you notice more feminine or masculine ego in yourself?