02/20/2026
Marriage is shifting in 2026. Have you noticed how many married men are on Tinder when confronted by their wives these men seem to feel like it’s not a problem for them to be talking to other women dating, etc. even while married! After they are caught, divorce is on the horizon. So what I’m seeing as a forecast is it marriage needs to change because women think it’s one thing and men seem to think it’s another. Now I’m not talking about these couples that are deeply and richly in love with one another. Relationships that thrive from the basis of shared respect, love admiration for one of one another.
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I’m talking about women being blindsided after having children that the men they married, suddenly feel as though these are throwaway women because they’re not what they used to be. or that it’s perfectly acceptable to create a dating profile, have s*xually infused conversations, dates, and vacations with women they are not married to. And all a while, they are lying to their wives about it. When confronted, they’re mainly upset that the wife knows or that she went through their phone to find out. There is no accountability. There is no responsibility taken.
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Somewhere in the education of men, they’ve lost compassion and understanding that the young woman they married is not going to look exactly the way she did when you met her after 10 years have gone by, three children have passed through her body and she’s been a stay at home mom raising these kids.
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I feel that what we are witnessing is the breakdown of marriage as we have known it to be. Back in the 50s and 60s, we know the routine of women being at home, raising kids, keeping a neat and tidy house, and taking excellent care of her husband’s needs.
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Women today are different. We are wiser. We have awakened to the truth that we have more power than we were led to believe. And with so many women making their own money, having positions of power in companies, being owners of businesses, a new woman has emerged from the fire of what was believed to be the goal of all women, marriage.
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No longer waiting to be picked, selected, chosen ; women are finding themselves not needing a man to support them at all. In so many women after divorce are choosing to stay single. Single is safe. Single isn’t about compromise. Single is now more a badge of self empowerment. If she has the means to support herself, she doesn’t need a man.
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This is turning a lot of men upside down. Because they don’t seem to comprehend why women wouldn’t wanna be in a marriage where she works 40 hours a week, comes home and has to clean house, take care of kids, prepare meals, do all of the shopping, laundry, and whatever tasks are needed …
and hubby has become one of the kids that she has to pick up after, take care of, clean up after. That’s not marriage, that servitude. Marriage is partnership. But when one partner checks out selfishly leaving the other partner to pick up all of the pieces, there’s no wonder why she would no longer wish for marriage.
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This is a year that men need to wake up. This is a year when men need to understand how marriage often works out for women. This is a time when men need to start healing those wounds from their childhood. Women have been doing the work, and in the past few years, it’s been very intense work. So women have risen and are now looking back and seeing that marriage is really a system that doesn’t serve women. Men get to go about their lives when children arrive. But the woman doesn’t have that same freedom.
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Now I’m not saying that all marriages are bad and that having children is a negative for women, far from that idea. But like the systems that need to break in this country, the system of marriage, as it is today, needs to be revamped. Because if it stays the way it is right now, fewer and fewer marriages will take place. More and more women will opt for careers and having children solo.
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My hope is that men who understand the values of partnership and are those husbands that do step in and help and our part of their children’s daily lives- will teach other men how to be better husbands, better partners, better dad‘s. I feel that men are to wake up at this time and so those men who have figured it out and have beautiful sacred relationships with their women will step forward and lead men circles, lead men into healing spaces, and help men re-imagine what partnership really is about. It is time for men to learn how to lead with love, not their di😝ks.
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I do have hope for marriage. But marriage needs to be re-engineered.  t
here needs to be equitability for both partners. The woman can no longer be the default person who will manage everything. That needs to be a shared position with both partners shouldering the weight of life together.
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And for all the rage baiting men that feel that women are just bi***es trying to withhold s*x from them, you’re gonna have to earn that privileged position, sir. Boy men will no longer be tolerated as potential partners. So if you were coddled by your mama, and she did everything for you, that’s the delight of being a child. Your father should have instilled in you that a real man picks up after himself, knows how to cook a few meals, is capable of gentleness and power, both when needed. Without being asked to do it. A mature man will bring his wife breakfast in bed after she’s had a baby, help her with her bathroom needs, and will think only of her care and needs in those kinds of times. If you feel that that would somehow interrupt your manhood, then you need to grow up, sir.
To be honest, there are so many beautiful, strong, amazing men out there. We are looking for your leadership and helping these boy men learn about relationships.
💖 until then, marriage may be off the table for many many women.
I’m curious to see how this will all shake out in the next 3 to 5 years.💖
