03/27/2026
As humans, weāre narrative beings. Our ancestors have told stories since the beginning of life. Telling stories is how we make sense of our life and what happens to us.
When we tell our story we shape neural pathways in the brain. The more we tell that story (to friends, family, or anyone who listens) the more those pathways become solidified. Meaning, the more true it becomes. What actually happened isnāt important. Itās the story we tell ourselves that becomes our reality.
People with high narcissistic traits have issues with emotional processing. This means when something highly triggering happens to them, they become emotionally rigid. They canāt see outside perspectives. They struggle to listen and hear anotherās point of view. And if theyāre challenged, they can become very aggressive or shut down. This black and white thinking makes their narrative skewed. They will become a victim, unable to acknowledge their role or unable to see a part they played.
Because people with high narcissistic traits have an addiction to external validation, they spread narratives to anyone who will listen. They cannot rely on their own knowing or internal experiences, they need people to mirror their version of reality back to them. This becomes delusion. Delusion is a fixed false belief. When someone has a fixed belief, they are the only person who can ever change that belief. Not you.
Your reality of the experience might be completely different. You may want to set the record straight, to argue your point, or to prove them wrong. But, safe yourself the cortisol spike. Unsubscribe. Silence is your most powerful response because it keeps your body regulated and itās the best boundary you have.
Trust the truth. Protect your body and nervous system. Gift yourself the power of peace.
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