12/16/2025
I was given permission to share this story!
I had a reading today and we connected with my client’s late husband. He had passed a few years ago and she wanted to check in with him and see what he thought of her life lately. She had done a lot! She finished school, she remodeled the house, her kids were excelling in every activity under the sun. We both expected him to be proud. He was P I S S E D. I had to pause for several minutes because even I was questioning whether or not we had the right guy. We did! And he was angry with her.
Obviously she was upset and confused. I was upset and confused. Her husband would be so proud of her! Why was he angry? He went on to explain that maybe with his limited human view he would have celebrated her achievements. Unfortunately he had to burst her bubble by reminding her that these aren’t things she even wanted. She earned an impressive degree, but it was in something she had zero passion for. She remodeled her house because she wanted to flex on the people in her life. He showed her how everything she did that she considered an accomplishment was solely for other people. She was living her entire life based on the perceived opinions of others and he demanded that she cut it out.
He really got her ass with that one I won’t lie. He lovingly encouraged her to take the time to figure out what SHE wants. She realized she had no idea. She had been so out of touch with herself. The session ended and even though she was disappointed in his response, she was also motivated by her husband’s words.
I’m telling this story because this actually happens (in varying degrees) in readings often. People want to connect with their loved ones expecting for them embody their old humanity when communicating, but they won’t. They’re not human anymore. They’re not weighed down with human emotions and concerns. Their only objective is to get you where you need to be on your journey and sometimes that involves some tough love.