Danelle Riles, LCSW - Counseling for Individuals, Couples, and Families

Danelle Riles, LCSW - Counseling for Individuals, Couples, and Families Providing psychotherapy for individuals, families, and couples. This work is sacred to me and I am deeply honored to join my clients on their healing journey.

As a neurodiversity affirming psychotherapist and Integrative Health Practitioner, my approach to therapy is holistic in nature. Together we can learn ways to develop a deeper sense of understanding, compassion, and acceptance of yourself. I offer an eclectic approach to this work which is Jungian informed, soulful, heart-centered, and intuitive. My work with clients often includes making room for our grief and acknowledging the ways in which grief is not honored in our culture. I use a trauma-informed approach; I am trained in Brainspotting Phase 1. I use the Internal Family Systems model to help clients to understand their parts that hold wounds and those that take on roles as protectors. I have found this model to be radically transformative in creating deeper healing through integration of exiled parts. I have training in a variety of treatment modalities which allows me to tailor treatment to my clients' needs. These include: Internal Family Systems; Brainspotting; Somatic Experiencing; Attachment Focused Family Therapy; Dialectical Behavior Therapy; Emotionally Focused Therapy; Yoga Informed Therapy; Polyvagal Theory; and Art Therapy.

Holding all mothers who have lost children in deep love and care.
05/08/2023

Holding all mothers who have lost children in deep love and care.

Mother.
Mater.
Madre.
Maman.
Ina.
Ima.
Maji.
Mam.
Mana.
Mor.
Ammee.
Muter.
Makuahine.
Mamma.

In every language, the word mother is beautiful. At its best, it represents a relationship of warmth, safety, and truly unconditional love and devotion. Sometimes, the beauty of motherhood is marked by the tragedy of death. And when this happens, when our hearts are broken, marred by the kind of terrifying loss that brings us to our knees, the truth of motherhood can feel overshadowed by anguish.

Back behind that shadow is the truth of mothers. That is, that motherhood is holy. That death can take away the body but it has no power over love and devotion. That our connection to them, the one that transcends time and space, is untouchable.

You are a mother. You are a beautiful mother, in every language, in every country, in every village, in every family. This day is as much yours as any mother, or perhaps more so.

May we see each other, we beautiful mothers with aching hearts and longing bones. May we see each other's children, each other's grief, each other's love.

Because that’s what mothers do. They love fiercely and ceaselessly. And Mother’s Day belongs to you.

Tender Mother’s Day love to each of you as you miss them dearly.

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And, friends and family, please remember to honor mothers who have lost their beloved child/children.

Please remember to honor the beloved mothers who have died and are now mourned by their children.

Few separations are as painful as the separation between parent and child.

Please.

www.JoanneCacciatore.com

We are a grief denying, happiness obsessed culture. I continue to unravel the effects of this on my own life. May you be...
02/06/2023

We are a grief denying, happiness obsessed culture. I continue to unravel the effects of this on my own life.

May you be seen and supported in your own grief. May you know that your lost loved ones matter. May you be supported by those that do not seek to forget and erase them. Grief is not to be gotten over.

The world pursues happiness. The world avoids grief. This equation creates more suffering and loneliness for grievers than imaginable.

But what if happiness as a milestone of a good life is a myth that actually works against the quest for a life of meaning by decrying grief? What if the path to authentic happiness means accepting that happiness can be elusive and ephemeral?

It is my belief that until humans learn to accept both the beauty and the pain of life, the existential loneliness inherent after the loss of a much-beloved one will continue to plague those who have endured life’s greatest losses.

May we do better for all. Talk to your friends and family and even strangers about their beloved ones who have died. Remember their names. Ask them, “how are you, *really*?” Then listen with your whole heart. Refrain from advise-giving or attempts at fixing what cannot be fixed. Honor them on special and hard days. I believe this is what the world needs now: for both love and grief to be seen and held.

Learn more: CenterForLossAndTrauma.com

07/27/2021

YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM DOES NOT TAKE REQUESTS. ⁣

unfortunately. ⁣

how great would it be to “decide” to calm down. i just literally laughed out loud. ⁣

my loves, we need to work with what we’ve got. ⁣

when we are disturbed, frightened, triggered, retraumatized, etc., we experience this on two different plains: the intellectual and the visceral. ⁣

intellectually we may know we’re “okay” once the stimulus passes, but the Nervous System will calm down on its own time. ⁣

the paradox is this: the more unreasonable/annoying/upsetting this is to us, the longer the Nervous System will remain inflamed. ⁣

alas, we have been outplayed. ⁣

breathe. pause. breathe again. give up. accept. know that the body will fall in line as soon as it’s ready. even when the mind says, “that’s enough!”⁣

my god am i feeling this today. once again (watch yesterday’s video if you want to know my state of mind) i am right there with you in the struggle for peace. ⁣

but there’s no where else to be than right here. so here we are. ⁣

i can feel it working, though. in moments. i can feel the truth of this truth taking hold. allow yourself to exhale. you are okay. eventually the whole system will catch up. ⁣

i love you. i’m sorry it’s so hard. i’m sorry you feel alone. i know you’re trying. me too. ⁣

me too. ⁣

xoxox n. 🤍

06/10/2021

Crying is a symbol that you feel something. Your job is to process, not to stop crying. Crying is a part of the process. Crying releases toxins and reduces stress.⁣

Studies show that most women cry about 4x’s a month while most men cry about twice a month. ⁣

Are you crying enough?⁣

If you're concerned about crying too much, determine the underlying reason for your tears. ⁣

If you aren't crying enough, examine your biases about crying. Also, if you just don't feel the need to cry, that's okay too. ⁣

{It’s healthy to cry.}⁣
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I highly recommend watching this film by the renowned, Dr. Gabor Mate. Whether you have a trauma history, or for the ben...
06/09/2021

I highly recommend watching this film by the renowned, Dr. Gabor Mate. Whether you have a trauma history, or for the benefit of understanding why humans become addicted as a way to cope with trauma. We all need this understanding which leads to compassion for ourselves and others.
https://thewisdomoftrauma.com

Here is the link to the video which is available until June 14.

https://wisdomoftrauma.com/movie/

https://vimeo.com/559202825/22c5f4725dOn the player above, you can click on CC and choose close captioning in English or translation on the following languages: Italian, French, Spanish, Portuguese, Russian and GermanWe hope you enjoy the film!If you feel inspired to deepen your understanding of ...

05/04/2021
Please know you are not alone and people want to help. Truly. Please reach out.
12/21/2020

Please know you are not alone and people want to help. Truly. Please reach out.

Happy Holidays from the Lifeline! If this holiday season is difficult for you, please know we're here for you, 24/7/365, at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). 💚

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