11/20/2025
In the 1960's, writer Anaïs Nin often reflected on the subjective nature of perception and the impact of personal experience on how we interpret the world. The quote, "We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are," aligns deeply with Polyvagal Theory, which suggests that our perception of the world is closely influenced by our internal physiological and emotional states.
According to Stephen Porges' Polyvagal Theory, through "neuroception" we scan other people, our own body, and the environment for cues of safety and danger. If we are in a ventral vagal state—feeling safe, calm, and socially engaged—our perception of the world reflects this sense of inner security. We’re more likely to interpret situations positively, approach others with openness, and feel connected to those around us. Our inner state of safety and security colors our perception of people and situations, allowing us to see the world through a lens of safety and connection.
On the other hand, if we are in a sympathetic or dorsal vagal states and feeling unsafe, our perception of the world shifts accordingly. In these states, we tend to view our environment as threatening or overwhelming, even if nothing externally has changed. This happens because our nervous system’s state influences what we notice and how we interpret social cues, which leads us to experience the world in line with our inner anxiety or withdrawal.
Learn more about Polyvagal Theory and neuroception on our website at polyvagal.org where you'll find courses and trainings, free resources, an online global community, and more. We hope you'll join us to create a safer and more connected world.
