10/31/2024
When you throw a rock into a pond, the greatest moment of disturbance is the moment the rock hits the water, creating ripples as far as the eye can see. The largest ripples are closest to the epicenter of the event. In a way this is how grief works. At the moment of the loss of someone we love. We begin to feel the strongest ripples of impact through our life. Of sorrow, of longing, of obsession. As time goes by, the disruptive nature of the stone begins to sink into permanence beneath the surface, and the felt turbulence begins to dissipate. So it is with your heart as it learns to accept the new condition, life, not without the person you loved, but with the person you loved in a different form. In your heart, in your thoughts, in your actions and your most cherished memories. The ripple effect on you and others never goes away when you lose someone you love. But neither can it persist at the strength and level of disruption that it did when the event occurred and the wave threw us. Our boats still rock, they sway, but we are not overwhelmed by them anymore. We've learned to live with the diminishing motion and accepted this condition as part of our new way of traveling on our ocean of ever changing experiences.
