Pulls Up A Chair

12/07/2025

Grief and the holidays

This time of year is filled with traditions, family gatherings, and memories. Please remember they are the grieving memory, not yours. You cannot "understand" what they are grieving. If this is your first time hearing my journey, I have grieved the loss of my daughter, Cherryn, since 2013, and my son, Matthew, since 2018. My holidays have sometimes been bittersweet because of their absence....

This time of year is filled with traditions, family gatherings, and memories. Please remember they are the grieving memory, not yours. You cannot “understand” what they are grieving. If…

11/29/2025

When Faith and Grief collide!

Grief is a universal experience, but when it strikes at the core of our dreams—whether through the loss of a loved one or any event that we experience loss—it can shake our faith to its very foundation. We may believe in God’s goodness yet wonder why He allows such pain. The struggle to reconcile faith with grief is one of the most profound challenges we face as believers....

Grief is a universal experience, but when it strikes at the core of our dreams—whether through the loss of a loved one or any event that we experience loss—it can shake our faith to its very founda…

11/27/2025

When Faith and Grief Collide will be published tomorrow morning at 8! It will be the calm before my busy weekend. Thank you all! 😀

11/26/2025

Anticipatory grief

I have met a handful of people dealing with this type of grief, and I thought I would touch on the subject again. Anticipatory grief is the experience of mourning a loss before it actually happens. It often arises when someone is facing the impending death of a loved one, their own terminal illness, or other significant life changes such as divorce, moving, or losing independence due to illness....

I have met a handful of people dealing with this type of grief, and I thought I would touch on the subject again. Anticipatory grief is the experience of mourning a loss before it actually happens.…

11/25/2025

Posting later this evening!
Anticipatory grief!
I touched on it a long time ago, but I have learned much more as I have journeyed through learning about grief.

11/23/2025

Understanding Prolonged Grief Disorder

What Is Prolonged Grief Disorder? Prolonged grief disorder is a condition marked by enduring feelings of intense loss that persist for an extended period and substantially impair a person's ability to function in everyday life. Individuals experiencing this disorder may grapple with emotional pain, disbelief regarding the death of their loved one, and a profound sense of loneliness. Accepting the reality of the loss can be highly challenging, making it difficult for them to begin moving forward....

What Is Prolonged Grief Disorder? Prolonged grief disorder is a condition marked by enduring feelings of intense loss that persist for an extended period and substantially impair a person’s a…

11/18/2025

Glad to be back! I just published on the blog.

11/17/2025

pullsupachair.wordpress.com
I am starting to update and will begin to post again soon. It is now back online with the new web address. Thank .you all for keeping me in your prayers over the past year. I am grateful to be starting up again.
I just finished my master's degree in grief counseling and will begin my doctorate in 2026. Doctor of Divinity Greif Counseling

09/05/2024

Look for a big announcement tomorrow at 9 am!

05/14/2024

Grief is Love with no arms to fill! Posting this in the next couple of hours. Grateful for all those that look at my blog!

05/14/2024

Even as the years go by without Cherryn and Matt, I never know how things will transpire around their birthdays. Cherryn's birthday is April 12, and Matt's is May 12. Some years are smooth sailing with my emotions and grief for one or the other's birthday, but never both. This year was hard around Matt's birthday. I get it. Totally. I have learned to continue in my silent hollowness in my heart. ...

Even as the years go by without Cherryn and Matt, I never know how things will transpire around their birthdays. Cherryn’s birthday is April 12, and Matt’s is May 12. Some years are s…

05/07/2024

I have made some changes to the home page of Pull Up A Chair. It's much easier to maneuver and find posts. Also, I am working on some new posts; be looking for them. Thank you all.