01/13/2026
“The best decisions start with a pause, a breath, and a child who knows how to think things through.”
1️⃣.Teach the Magic Pause
Show your child that when something tricky happens, it helps to stop and take a “magic breath.” You can say, “Let’s pause, breathe in like smelling a flower, and breathe out like blowing out a candle.”
2️⃣.Make a Calm-Down Corner
Create a cozy spot with soft pillows, books, and maybe a stuffed animal. Tell your child it’s a place to go when they need to think, calm down, or decide what to do next.
3️⃣.Play “Freeze and Think”
During playtime, shout “Freeze!” and ask fun questions like, “What should we do next?” It turns pausing and thinking into a game.
4️⃣.Ask Gentle “Thinking” Questions
When your child faces a problem, try asking: “What might happen if you do that?” or “What’s another idea you could try?” It helps them practice seeing choices.
5️⃣.Talk About Feelings with Stories
When reading bedtime stories, pause and ask, “What do you think the character should do?” or “How do you think they feel?” It connects emotions to decisions.
6️⃣.Praise the Pause
When your child takes a moment to think before acting, say, “I love how you stopped to think first!” This shows them that thinking is powerful.
7️⃣.Do Breathing Games Together
Make mindful breathing fun — pretend to blow up a big balloon, smell a yummy cookie, or breathe like a sleepy lion. It builds self-control in silly, joyful ways.
8️⃣.Draw the Problem
If your child is upset, ask them to draw what happened or how they feel. Talking about their drawing helps them slow down and see different choices.
9️⃣.Family Thinking Time
When you’re deciding something small (like what game to play or what snack to have), let your child help. Ask, “Why do you think that’s a good choice?” It gives them practice thinking out loud.
🔟.Reflect Together
After a big feeling or a choice, talk gently: “What worked well? What could we try next time?” It helps them learn that thinking is something we keep getting better at.
