10/19/2020
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"The first step in this journey to recovery is to look at the “sign posts” you have followed in the past and begin to understand why they are not helping you recover. This means going back to the past and looking at what you learned about dealing with loss from a fresh perspective. Since these bits of misinformation are deeply instilled, and a part of your “habit” on how to recover, the only way to turn in a new direction is to look at why they continually fail you.
Among these old habits may be any number of “short term energy relieving behaviors” that you have used in the past to feel better. These can be such things as food, drink or medication, that give you the sense of feeling better while you are partaking in them, but don’t really deal with the your underlying grief issues. Others find a temporary escape from their emotional pain in exercise, volunteering or keeping busy. Still others turn to gambling or other escapist activities. The list of such possible actions is endless, and will vary with the individual and their particular loss. Whatever the behavior, it’s a chance to let something else become your focus for a period of time, so that you don’t have to think about your loss. It doesn’t solve your problem, but rather temporarily sets it aside. It’s in understanding why we continue to take these actions that we can avoid taking this “fork in the path” in the future and instead address our grief issues directly." - Stephen Moeller
Certified Grief Recovery Specialist®
