02/14/2026
Can we please hold more nuance when we talk about divorce?
Naturally, when people think about divorce they have a major aversion to it. Divorce is painful, and divorce recovery can be arduous. It’s a MAJOR transition for a family and has to be handled with care.
And also, harm is done when we throw out things like, “You’re going to ruin your kids” or “Did you try hard enough?” or “You need to suck it up; you’ll regret blowing up your life.”
Nobody gets married anticipating divorce. That’s the thing people *actively* do not want.
And yet…sometimes….
it’s the least worst thing.
it’s what gives children a healthy parent.
it’s safety.
it’s a needed boundary.
While I refuse to romanticize divorce, it is important to open up the conversations around divorce to include more compassion, variables, and data.
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