10/15/2023
In the words of our beloved Mr. Rogers, "When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, 'Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.'"
When our children experience or witness traumatic events, it becomes a pivotal moment for us as caregivers to create a safe haven for their feelings and fears. Here, we’ll explore some gentle ways to help our children process and heal.
1. **Begin with a Comforting Presence:** Before words, our children will notice our presence. Sit close, hold their hand or offer a warm hug. Just as Mr. Rogers once said, "Sometimes, just a silent hug is the only thing to say."
2. **Open the Conversation Gently:** Start by saying, “I noticed you seemed a bit worried/upset/quiet. Would you like to talk about it?” Remember, it’s essential to let them take the lead. You're providing an open door, and they can choose when and how to walk through it.
3. **Listen Actively:** Sometimes, the most crucial thing isn’t what you say but how you listen. With gentle nods, comforting sounds, and open body language, let them know you're wholly present.
4. **Validate Their Feelings:** Whether it's sadness, fear, or confusion, every feeling is valid.
5. **Offer Reassurance:** Just as the world of make-believe in the Neighborhood was safe, ensure your child knows their home is a sanctuary. Remind them that many people – parents, teachers, police officers, and more – are working hard to keep them safe.
6. **Use Simple, Honest Words:** If they ask questions, answer honestly but with simplicity.
7. **Limit Media Exposure:** Remember that amidst the storms of life, your love, patience, and understanding serve as the comforting lighthouse for your little ones. With your support, they will not only endure but grow stronger and more resilient.
Sending warmth and kindness to each of you, and remember that in every neighborhood, including yours, love is the most powerful force.