02/05/2026
Where are the women out there taking great care of their husbands and grateful for the opportunity?
I never minded taking care of him and I took great pride in serving him well. But since his heart attack that urgently required a quadruple bypass this past November, and knowing I almost lost him, something shifted in us both.
We’ve struggled in our marriage in so many ways and the fear of abandonment lingered over us like a dark cloud. It was a childhood wound we both carried into our relationship, unknowingly.
Every single time life got hard, one of us was walking out. Sometimes him. Sometimes me. We were unstable, hurting and building resentment.
But God broke that off us, restored us and we just celebrated 31 years.
Healing our childhood wounds from my dad and his mom leaving brought us to a place where we’ve gained more from our trauma than it ever stole from us.
We have a new appreciation for marriage, love, and life. There is more joy, laughter and that “𝙠𝙣𝙤𝙬𝙞𝙣𝙜” I talk about often… mmm, it’s the goodness I struggle to describe.
I need him and he needs me. It’s how marriage should be, but in healthy ways. Not out of fear or anxious attachment, but out of love for the gift God has given us.
I pray you find encouragement here to reclaim your life after trauma.
Love you big,
Mel 🫶🏼
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